Reader Question: How Do I Handle The Hate I Receive For Dating Outside My Race?

January 26, 2016  |  



Reader Question:

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year. He is Mexican of Aztec descent and I’m Black with a mixed background. The love and chemistry we have is unreal. He’s always there to support me and I couldn’t have prayed for a better partner. I have nothing against Black men, but we were friends and fell in love. Our families get along great as well, but the looks we get when we go out together are unreal. People actually walk up to us and say it’s disgusting and gross that we’re together. Even my own father, who I have an estranged relationship with, has an issue with it as well. He stated that when we have a child it will be twice as hard in this life being Mexican and Black because Being black is hard enough. I literally broke into a million pieces.

My boyfriend said he’s used to stuff like this because Mexican culture is looked at very poorly, but he has his own business and takes care of his mother and is wonderful father to his son, whom I love dearly. I’ve been in some horrible relationships and literally gave up on love then God brought us together. I thank God for him everyday. He still gives me butterflies and makes my heart skip a beat constantly. It breaks my heart that we’re in the year 2016 and people are still so ignorant. But what people fail to realize is that with all the hate thrown at us we always talk about how it affects us and it just deepens our strength for one another. But I do feel as if there needs to be some education for people who have an issue with us. I don’t believe in being ugly because that would make me look like the hatred I receive. We are planning on getting married and starting a family. What’s your opinion on what we’re dealing with?

Loved and never giving up

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