While most folks are trying to get the hell away from their exes, there’s an ex-couple somewhere in the world thinking about going back for a second helping. Recently, a 35-year-old dad, who we’ll call “Adam” was approached by his ex-fiancée, “April,” about having another child. They share a 6-year-old son; neither have other children. In a Reddit post, Adam explained that both he and April are single and they both have experienced their share of failed relationships since they called off their engagement four years ago. They split because they realized that they weren’t in love. However, both desire to have another child and their son longs for a sibling.
The other night after our son’s baseball game the three of us went back to my house for dinner. We ate and then put our son to bed. Then the two of us just sat around and talked for a bit, and she eventually told me that she had something she wanted to discuss with me. Long story short, she said that she wanted to have another baby with me. She had thought it out, and it made sense to her.
According to Adam, some of the reasons April thinks he would be the ideal person to have another child with include that he is a wonderful dad, they still have a great relationship, they’re amazing at co-parenting with one another, and they each have solid careers. Adam is also pretty geeked about doing the horizontal mambo with April because as he put it, “the sex with her was amazing.”
We wouldn’t get back together as a couple. We would just continue with our current arrangement, and she would most likely move into my house for a period during and after her pregnancy.
To Adam, the arrangement seems like a no-brainer, but he’d like to know if he’s unrealistic or unreasonable for considering this proposal.
What do you think he should do?
Update: Six months after making the original post, Adam shared an interesting update. He and April moved ahead with their plans to conceive. April is pregnant and the pair have decided to rekindle their relationship as well.
My ex is pregnant. She is close to 11 weeks, and so far everything is fine. We plan to tell our son once she passes the 12-week mark. We read some materials which suggested we wait until closer to time for the baby’s birth, but we thought it would be better this way since it would give him more time to adjust to the changes–the biggest of which will be his mom moving in and us all being together.
There is one more bit of good news I have, or, at least I think it is good news. My ex and I rekindled our relationship. We are taking things very slowly, though, because we realize that the sex and hormones might be clouding our judgment. All I can say is that things are going really well, and we’re spending a lot of time together. We’re both happier than we’ve been in a long time, so fingers crossed that this continues.