Today, a pregnant woman wrote to Cosmopolitan’s relationship adviser Logan Hill, seeking advice about a pressing dilemma.
She was recently diagnosed with Chlamydia after a routine check-up. To make matters worse, her husband’s results came back negative —three times. “He got tested three times and each time the test came back negative. I have always been faithful to my husband,” she told Hill. “But now everyone is accusing me of cheating even though he and I are together at least 90 percent of the time – and when we aren’t, he normally knows exactly where I am, or I’m texting him or sending picture messages to him.”
The woman researched her current predicament with her husband and found similar accounts from other couples. However, heath specialists told the husband infidelity is the only reason that would cause them to have different test results. Although the woman claims she’s never been unfaithful in her marriage, it appears her husband doesn’t know whether or not to believe her. Desperately, the woman told Hill:
“How can I convince him I haven’t cheated and obviously got this from the person I was with before him? This is putting a lot of stress on our relationship and on me, which doesn’t help my growing baby.”
Hill responded to the woman, teaching her about asymptomatic STDs that remain dormant for years. These type of STDs never show up when tested, preventing people from being diagnosed. He also suggested the couple stop Googling their condition because “each search result will bring back a different answer, a different suspicion, a different anxiety.” Hill also advised the couple to focus on their pregnancy instead of the mounting paranoia between them.
Do you agree with Hill or would you resolve this issue differently?