While sitting down with MTV to promote her new book, How To Be A Bad B—h and talk about all that she’s done in 2015, Amber Rose revealed some fascinating things about herself.
For instance, she shared that she, too, used to be a slut-shamer.
“I always wanted to promote girl power, even when I was younger, but at that time, I didn’t have a voice,” Rose said. “Growing up in my neighborhood, I was raised to be a slut shamer. I didn’t know any better. But then I started to put myself in their shoes — that’s something we don’t do as women. We’ll be quick to call a woman a ho but not think about what we did last week, or what we did with our last boyfriend. Or we criticize what she has on because we feel self-conscious about our bodies.”
She also shared that her split from estranged husband Wiz Khalifa made her have a change of heart. Or, as MTV put it, a “feminist awakening.”
“Going through a divorce, I really saw the double standards. Wiz would be with a different girl every day and get photographed out with girls at the club. I would be on one date with a guy, and it was like, ‘You’re a horrible mother! You’re a f–ked up person! You’re a whore! That’s why Wiz left you, you f–king slut.’ And I was just like, damn, am I not allowed to live? Am I not allowed to be sexy anymore because I’m a mom? Do I have to dress like a nun because I had a baby? I just started to see all of those comments while I was going through my divorce, and it just wasn’t right. I have an opportunity to be a voice for women to say that it’s not cool.”
But one thing that truly stood out from her interview was Rose’s decision to reveal that when she was in middle school, she was assaulted by a classmate who put his hand up her skirt. She divulged this information while speaking on young women who are slut-shamed for what they wear.
When Rose shared this incident with her principal at the time, the administrator, a woman, by the way, blamed her for it.
“I was sexually assaulted in the seventh grade,” Rose said. “This boy stuck his hand all the way up my skirt. I was sitting on the edge of the stage in the auditorium, and he sat down next to me and put his hand up my skirt… I went to principal, and I told her that I felt extremely violated. I couldn’t believe that he had touched me like that. And she blamed me. She said, ‘You shouldn’t even be wearing a skirt like that.’ Obviously, in the seventh grade, my skirt was not that short — but even if it was, that didn’t give him the right to shove his hand up my skirt.”
Rose also felt that the principal’s response had a lot to do with the fact that she grew up poor, so she didn’t receive much support.
“I grew up in a very poor neighborhood [in South Philadelphia], and went to a very poor school, and she made me feel like I didn’t matter. That’s another thing I talk about in my book — classism. There are Victoria’s Secret models who wear lingerie constantly, and no one calls them a ho. But if an Instagram model posts a picture of her in lingerie because she’s confident and she’s sexy and she’s happy with her body, she’s labeled a ho.”
Say what you want about her, but Rose is definitely making some very valid points on sexism and classism.
Have you had a similar experience growing up? Can you relate to what Rose is saying?
Check out her entire interview with MTV here.