To Clap Back Or Not: “Why You Going To The Gym? It’s Not Making A Difference”

December 14, 2015  |  

Sometimes we find ourselves on the receiving end of a verbal slight that makes us question whether we should hold our tongue or be all that we can be in the petty army. In this column, we’ll relay those situations that (almost) made us lose our religion and ask whether you think we should have clapped back or not.


A friend of mine dearly loves the Lord — the people in her church home who also claim to love the Lord as much as she does, not so much. And there was no greater reminder of that fact then when she was invited to fellowship one evening but told the brother who invited her she couldn’t because she had to go the gym.

“Why You Going To The Gym? It’s Not Making A Difference”

That’s what her dear brother in Christ hit her with as a rebuttal.

Just hearing my friend utter those words made my blood boil as I threw out about 13 devilish comebacks she could’ve hit him with. (I’m not quite as steadfast in my walk with the Lord as my girl.) I was irritated at his policing of her time, his insensitivity, and, above all, his rudeness. I simply don’t play when it comes to comments about people’s weight, it’s my own personal sensitive spot, and I find myself leaning toward the label of unforgivable when it comes to people who commit such offenses.

While my friend felt a way about the remark, though not in any sort of personal way because she’s already been down the weight loss path and goes to the gym to maintain her size not fix it — a fact Brother Talk Too Much could’ve found out himself had he not jumped to haughty conclusions about her intentions — she was more taken aback that a man with a wife somewhere in the 300- to 400-lb range could make such a comment. It was at this point that the devil in me did seemingly influence her to throw out a few non-Christ-like remarks about “Precious,” but I promptly told her to stop because that woman has nothing to do with her husband’s ignorance.

Still, my friend found herself a bit perplexed, saying she’s always unsure of what to do in situations like that. “I never know if I should say something back or just let it go, so I just let it go.” I told her she probably did the right thing, since there was really nothing good that could come from going off on the man or shaming his wife, but there’s still a little piece inside of me thinking he needed to be put in his place.

What do you say, is this a time to clap back or not?

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