Amber Rose Tells Women To Do What They’ve Done For Centuries, And People Are Mad About It
Amber Rose has the internets talking again. In a recent interview with Time Magazine, the stripper-turned-businesswoman, gave entrepreneurial and financial advice to women who are trying to do something for themselves.
Since Rose is known to cause controversy every time she speaks or does anything, it really comes as no surprise that people took her comments as a direct opposition to feminism. So what is it that’s got people so shook?
Well, Amber told women that it’s important to master the art of seduction when it comes to getting money from your man to start your next business venture.
“As women, we’re fortunate enough to use our seductive skills in order to be able to get money from our significant others. I also talk about seduction in the book. A lot of women don’t know how to seduce a man. It is extremely easy once you get to that point, and you can get anything you want out of them. And I know it might sound messed up, but once you get to that point, it’s not using. It’s not using a man, it’s literally getting what you want by any means necessary.”
In her defense, that’s not the only advice Amber gave. She told women to research the industry they’re trying to enter, advised them to prioritize their goals over socializing and talked about the importance of being nice to people once you make it to the top.
But it’s the topic of seduction that has people in their feelings. They argue that if Amber is trying to be a feminist, relying on your assets and sexuality is counterintuitive.
I don’t necessarily think her belief is anti feminist. Maybe it represents a lack of self worth, believing that your only way to negotiate is through sexuality. But women, since the beginning of time, have used seduction and sexuality in order to sway the opinions and actions of a man.
I’ve literally heard my own mother giving advice to one of her friends, whose husband was being particularly hardheaded.
“Oh, he said no?! That’s too bad. Well, here’s what you do. Call him at work and say, ‘When you get home, leave your clothes at the door.'”
And the very next day, my mother’s friend, had a different, more suitable answer.
No one died, my mom’s friend didn’t feel like less of a woman and everybody in the situation benefitted.
Now, does that mean you should always use sex over logic and discussion. Hell naw. But if you really want something, seducing or even having sex with someone you’re already in a relationship with, is not that big of a deal. You’d do it anyway.
There are women who believe men should be paying your bills just because you’re sleeping with them, in a relationship. And then there are others who wouldn’t reject the offer.
I’m not one of those women who would want a man, other than my husband, to pay my bills. But there is something entirely different about having a man believe in you enough or love you enough to invest money into funding your dream.
Perhaps people are troubled by the idea that a man who truly loved and supported you might not need sex to persuade him to do so. And maybe there are some men who might need a little coaxing to make the right decision.
After all, sex is powerful and might make some men feel spellbound. But when that feeling wears off, he never intended to give you any money, a little sex or seduction won’t be enough to make him cut you a check.
At the end of the day, Amber didn’t say anything new or revolutionary. People are just ready to attack her for anything these days.
What do you think? Is it wrong or anti-feminist for women to use seduction or sex to get money from their significant others? Should a man or woman in a serious, committed relationship automatically contribute financially to help support their partner’s dreams?