I had celebrity crushes just like most girls; but more than anything, I just wanted to know what these boys and men were like in real life. The thought of them kissing or touching me was never that appealing. I wanted the real boys to do that. It wasn’t long before I learned I was in the minority when it came to such matters. I realized that my friends were down for almost whatever when it came to the guys whose posters they’d plastered all over their bedroom walls.
I’d hear stories of women–grown women– throwing their bras and draws onto a stage and screaming to the point of tears or hysteria when their favorite musician was just feet away from them on stage. And if these fans were the chosen ones, they could have an intimate encounter with the object of their affection. They would be brought on stage, gyrated on and then sent back to their seat, the envy of many of the other concert goers, with a story to tell their grandchildren.
But how much is too much?
This question came to the forefront this weekend after R&B singer August Alsina groped and grabbed a woman’s breasts on stage.
I’ll let you look at the video for yourself.
I’ve already told you about my hang ups and watching this video made me pretty uncomfortable. August didn’t graze her boobs. He was all over them, going back more than once. I immediately shivered in disgust. Perhaps I’m projecting, but didn’t this woman seem uncomfortable to you?
Just I was ready to give August a severe side eye, I read the comment section and someone mentioned that what he did to her was no different than Janet Jackson rubbing up on men’s crotches when they come on stage or Ciara giving extravagant lap dances. They argued that if you aren’t “down for whatever” then don’t even bother getting on stage.
Still, is there something to be said about just assuming that people–men and women alike– don’t want to be publicly exploited?
Is there a difference between a man being groped and grabbed versus a woman? Is it sexist to see the problem with one and not the other? Tell us what you think in the comments?