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The hectic summer wedding season may have come to an end, but quite a few people are also saying “I do” in the fall. With that being said, you probably have a wedding or two to attend in the next few months. And while you think you’re doing friends and family a favor by simply showing up on their big day, you will be doing them a disservice if you exhibit bad behavior during their wedding and reception. We talked to wedding expert Jess Levin to get all the deets on how to be the perfect wedding guest. Levin, the founder of the popular site Carats & Cake, a premier resource for wedding planning, said you should avoid doing things that put a damper on a loved one’s big day. Like the following:

Arriving late to the ceremony

“This is an obvious rule that everyone seems to ignore. Do not assume everyone else will be late. Remember that the bride and groom have to take family portraits and group shots after the ceremony, so it is important to be mindful of time.”

Bringing last-minute guests

“The amount of guests at a wedding is a big ordeal, and you never want to add more stress to the couple. Guest lists depend on the type of wedding, the venue, and any added costs. Do not take it upon yourself to bring a guest that has not been accounted for by the RSVP deadline. It is also impolite to ask the bride and groom for an addition past the RSVP date.”

Wearing white

“Traditionally, only the bride should wear white, so you should check with the bride before wearing that perfect white dress.”

Switching seating assignments at the reception

“The seating assignments are planned out in a specific way for a reason. You should never alter your seating arrangements or switch seats at a wedding reception. However, it is acceptable to mingle at different tables once dinner has been cleared.”

Limiting the number of trips to the buffet at the reception

“The buffet at the reception is not a free-for-all. Keep in mind that all guests need to be fed so limiting your trips to the buffet is a must.”

Ignore a request from the bride and groom

“Unplugged weddings are a big trend lately, and a lot of couples are starting to request that guests refrain from taking pictures or using their phones during the ceremony. If you see a sign or request to limit your digital usage, try to be respectful of the couple and resist the urge to pull out your phone and snap a few shots.”

Get in the way of the photographer

“During the ceremony and any other big picture moments (like the first dance or the cake cutting), make sure you pay attention to where the photographer is. Especially if you are trying to take your own picture. Try not to block the professional’s shot with your phone.”

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