How To Move On When He’s Not The One

August 28, 2015  |  
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What happens to a woman when she discovers that her “Prince Charming” is not her soul mate? How does she recover from the loss she’s experienced and find the strength to move on? Here are a few options to help you do so the right way.

Accept the Fact that Things Have Ended

The best way to begin your healing process is to spend time alone. Think about the good and the bad that came from the relationship, and then about all the better things (and men) you have to look forward to now that you’re a free woman.

Cry it Out!

Nothing is better than a good cry after a heart-wrenching breakup. Tears help release pain from the soul and refresh the spirit. After you’re all cried out, begin picking up the pieces of your heart to start again.

Evaluate What You May Have Done

After you’ve parted ways with your lover, make sure you take a moment to think about your actions during the relationship. It will help you see what you did right, and what you did wrong.

Cleanse Yourself of Everything that Reminds You of Them

This includes giving or throwing away gifts, pictures, cards–absolutely everything. Doing this will help your healing process because nothing is worse than seeing a memento of the good times you had together. It may also be wise to delete them from all of your social media accounts as well. You don’t want to see hurtful posts or pictures that you may not be ready for. “Out of sight, out of mind.”


Become A New You

Now that you are starting fresh, give yourself a complete makeover from the inside out. Color your hair, cut it, get extensions, take yoga, start working out, set new goals–whatever your heart desires, go for it.


Talk About It

One thing we hate to do is allow people in our personal lives, and that’s understandable. However, when you’ve gone through or are going through a breakup, it’s good to talk things out with a trusted friend or family member. Verbally expressing your hurt will help you with accepting things, and help you get closer to healing.

Let Your Friends and Family Know About Your Breakup

Telling your friends and family that you no longer have a significant other is helpful so they won’t ask you about them, and unknowingly, throw a wrench in your plan to get over them. You can send a mass text, call everyone who knows about your relationship, or privately inbox them on social media and inform them of the news. Keep it short and sweet, revealing only the information you want to share.


Write Out Your Feelings

This is another way to let go of the bitterness, and you never know what could come of your writing. Just ask Adele.


Reconnect with Those You Love

A lot of times, when we’re in love, we neglect those around us. Although it’s not done intentionally, we do it because we’re so engulfed in our relationship. Now you have more time call up an old friend or visit family, people who’ve been there all along. Or better yet, take some time alone and reconnect with yourself.


When You’re Ready, Begin Exploring Other Options

After you’ve taken time to regroup and rebuild yourself, get out there and start dating your heart out. But only do this when you’re ready. You don’t want to jump into dating too soon if you’re not ready mentally or emotionally. But, when you feel up to it, begin dating as many people as you can tolerate. This will help you get over your past love, but still remind you of what you want in a relationship.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For. A motivational speaker, and an advocate for single women who encourages them to live their best single life God’s way! Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.

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