Serious Question: Could You Handle Your Mom Being A Phone Sex Worker?

August 25, 2015  |  

Yesterday VICE’s Broadly writer Abby Moss published a piece about her mother’s unconventional job as a phone sex caller. In her piece, Moss recounted how her mother had trouble receiving a full-time job in the retail and restaurant industries. Although she aced the interviews, the positions would be given to younger people. So, desperate to pay her bills, her mother decided to become a phone sex caller.

Once she got the job, Moss’s mom was able to travel and visit her daughter in Europe. During the trip, she shared the weird fetishes some men have, like the desire to hear a woman farting or use the bathroom. And although it may seem bizarre, Moss discovered, through research, phone sex is one of the leading businesses responsible for the growth of the adult entertainment industry. Moss reports, “Sex lines are expensive; lots and lots of porn is available for free. It turns out that making sure the experience is realistic is key: If you can make it feel real, really real, suddenly you’re offering something PornHub can’t. Phone sex is massive business, estimated to be worth $4.5bn worldwide.”

Some women have been able to launch businesses or purchase homes from the money they’ve earned as a phone sex callers. Despite this, some women are ashamed to tell people what they do for a living. One woman told Moss, those closest to her believe it is no different than being a “prostitute.” Which leads me to ask: Would you allow your mother to become a phone sex caller? Or better yet, could you handle it?

Yes, there are many mothers who work in the sex industry but if their children are adults and can financially support them, should they? As a Caribbean-American, I financially support my mother (and some older relatives) in different capacities. I was raised to believe it is the right thing to do and the money will come back to you. However, many of my American friends believe once they leave the nest, they are solely responsible for themselves. But when you have a parent having to enter the sex industry to survive, is the adult child being selfish? If it were me, I would rather support my mother instead of  feeling embarrassed or becoming a topic for conversation because of her job. However, I assume if I didn’t care about public image so much I wouldn’t have a problem with the issue at hand. To be honest, I was fascinated by how empowered Moss’s mother sounded. She felt her desire to become a therapist was fulfilled because the men who call her  wanted to feel uplifted, hear “I love you,” and speak about their daily routines.

From my culture’s ethnocentric lenses, if a woman becomes a sex worker, it’s viewed as a disgrace. Not because she didn’t apply for other work but because a woman’s  self-worth is tied to her sexuality. Although that seems played out to me, I believe the problem lies in many cultures not having a healthy perception about the sex industry and how it gives people, especially men, an escape to be themselves.

Where do you stand on this issue?

 

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