School Drama: What To Do When You Don’t Like Your Child’s Teacher
Stories of parent-teacher battles are nothing new. Whether it’s a difference of opinion about how they teach or just personality clashes, when you don’t get along with your child’s teacher it can negatively affect your child at home and at school.
If you happen not to like your child’s teacher, keep the following in mind:
Don’t Badmouth The Teacher At Home
As much as you may want to walk around the house venting about how you really feel, don’t do it. It will possibly make your child just as angry, causing them to have less respect for the teacher. This can cause them to get into more trouble at school, and you will have to see someone you don’t like even more.
The last thing you want to do is go an entire year disliking someone who works closely with your child. Set up a meeting with the teacher and attempt to have a calm conversation. To prepare, put a few logical bullet points in your phone to keep the conversation on track with the things that are bothering you. After you talk, you need to actually listen and absorb the responses. Many times people are not listening and are just waiting to get their next point across. Also, try your best not to have an accusatory tone.
School Observation Days
Get involved with the school as much as you can so that you can observe the teacher-student dynamic. Sometimes you might find that what you think is a personal attack against your child isn’t, and that is just the way the teacher acts with all of the kids. It doesn’t mean it’s right, and it should still be addressed, but at least you know your child isn’t being singled out. Plus, having your presence there a little more might make the “not so nice” teacher adjust their attitude when you aren’t around.
Going To The Principal
If your parent-teacher meetings and observation days don’t work then set up a meeting with your child’s principal. Most administrator-parent meetings are kept confidential so you should be able to feel comfortable being open and honest. The principal is there daily and could offer suggestions or a meeting with the three of you. They may also be able to tell you something you might not know that could explain things, including life-altering changes the teacher is currently going through. Although that’s not your child’s problem, it could put things into perspective.
Don’t Get Bit By The Denial Bug
Let’s be real here, all kids are not well-behaved, and the worst thing you can do as a parent is be in denial about your child’s behavior. If the teacher tells you that your child’s conduct is disruptive or could use improvement in certain ways, try your hardest to be open and listen.
Switching Teachers Or Schools
This should be your last resort because you want to lead by example and try and teach your child that resolving issues when possible is better than running away from them. If you have done everything you feel you can and are still completely uncomfortable with leaving your child there, then ask to have your child switched to another classroom. But remember that if they are allowed to, this new teacher is not going to be a perfect person either.