9 Times Excuses Are Not An Option

August 21, 2015  |  
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I know that life can be pretty hard, and sometimes you need time to refuel or recharge.  You’re human, and you’re going to falter sometimes.  However, there are moments when excuses just aren’t allowed.  I don’t want to be a drill sergeant, but put on your big-person-pants, and stop making excuses!  Like these times:

When you’re lazy

I know, there are moments when your bed is the equivalent to “Club Med,” and a new season of your favorite show is on Netflix.  I get it.  But, when your personalized Batsignal flies, and work needs to be done, saying:  “I don’t feel like it,” isn’t going to cut it.

Do you know what helps me?  If the person who is supposed to pay me were to say:  “I don’t feel like it, can I do it later?”  Just imagining my indignation keeps me on my grind when I don’t feel like it.

When you’re having a bad day

I know how irritating it can be when your cat ignores you, the garage door is stuck, and your favorite barista can’t make your drink right (even though you’ve been going there for over a year).  However, that’s not a good enough reason to be unproductive.

The world doesn’t stop spinning because everything in your world seems to be going in a completely different direction.  Adjust, adapt, and then cry in the shower later.

When people are “supposed to know”

To me, there’s no excuse for being rude, and when people say things like:  “well, they’re supposed to know that I’m a jerk.”  NO!  Just, stop being a jerk!  Ignoring the manners that your caregivers taught you, because you have reputation of being surly, is not okay.

When you know your problem

I don’t have many pet peeves, but one of them is when people know what their problem is, but refuse to fix it.  They say that the first step in the 12 Step program is admitting you have a problem.  Can you imagine if that was the only step?  There would be no improvement whatsoever!

If you can admit what your problem is, then you have the capacity to change it.  Don’t be lazy and use it as an excuse.  By the way…

When you use your problem as a crutch

When you turn your problem into a crutch, it’s ridiculous.  Don’t get into relationships if you know you can’t commit because you have “Mommy/Daddy” issues.  Don’t sign up to adopt a child if you’re “not sure.”  Stop pretending like your problem gives you a free pass to remain foolish.  It’s not.

Because you’re “scared”

Now I understand how fear can keep you immobile.  There have been a few things that I regret in life because I let my fear dictate my next moves.  Well, no more!

I’m not going to skydive anytime soon, but if there’s something that I’m well capable of doing, I’m not going to just sit back in the sideline because I’m afraid, and you shouldn’t either.  Apply to that college, ask for that raise, get that recommendation!

Because of “everyone else”

I’m pretty sure that there’s a good quote out there about going against the grain, but instead of using it, I’m just going to say this:

You’re not going to feel fully fulfilled in life if you’re allowing the speed of others to keep you complacent.  Instead of comparing yourself to others and trying to blend in, do the things that you want to do.  Even if they cause you to stand out or be out of your comfort zone.

Because you’re mad

Do you know how mad I get every month around student loan payment time?  Do you know what I do?  I pay those [expletives].  Why?  Because I can’t allow my anger of Sallie Mae and Navient to stop me from doing what I’m supposed to be doing.

In the same vein, it’s not an excuse to be rude to people either.  Though you’re angry, it’s not okay to be snappy at the cashier at the supermarket.  They’re just trying to do their jobs, and they don’t deserve to be dumped upon due to you being “mad.”

Because someone else is being rude

There are people who I come in contact with who can be extremely rude, but what do I look like attacking them?  The thing is, you don’t have to stand for being disrespected, but you don’t have to come out of your character at the same time.

Don’t allow someone else to have that much control over your behavior.



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