You finally changed your relationship status on Facebook. You’re officially off the market! But, have you entered a quality relationship or one built on comfort? Quite often, ladies get sick of the single life and figure settling for something is better than nothing.
Being single is better than a status any day of the week. You’ve got to stop wasting your time with people who are a waste of time.
Maybe you’re still in the honeymoon phase and you haven’t even realized you’re dating a less than worthy guy. You don’t want to wake up one day and realize he’s just not that into you. You’ve got to start recognizing men over boys. There’s nothing worse than wasting your time.
So, how can you find out before it’s too late?
Here are 5 behaviors any man will display when he really cares about you:
- He spends time with you
Any man who’s truly interested in you (for the long haul) will want to spend quality time with you. He will make time in his busy schedule to show you that you’re an important part of his life. No excuses necessary.
- His actions speak louder than his words
He doesn’t have to sweet talk you to show you how he feels! His actions show you that he cares about you. The way he treats you is a clear indication that he’s into you. Plus, he’s consistent.
- He takes care of you
Not just financially! Any man that’s truly interested in building with you is going to ensure your needs are met at all times. He’s going to remember important info that you tell him, check on you “just because” and go out of his way to keep you happy.
- He shows interests in your interests
The man for you will at least pretend to be interested in the things that interest you. He will make an effort to understand your hobbies, show up for important occasions and make himself an active player on your team.
- He protects you
This is the foundation of male/female relationships. Not only will he protect you from outsiders, he will do NOTHING to harm you himself.
If you’re looking at this list in disbelief and think it’s unrealistic, it’s because you haven’t been attracting men in your life. There is no shortage in good men in the world, if you start looking in the right places.
But before you go looking, it’s important to ensure you’re ready for the relationship you’re looking for. Remember, like attracts like.
So, if you’re attracting dishonest men who are emotionally unavailable, it’s time to evaluate the energy that you’re putting out into the world.
Before entering into any relationship, it’s important to explore a relationship with yourself first. Become who you want to be with. Map out all of the characteristics you’d like your mate to posses and then come up with action steps to become those characteristics. For example, if you’re looking for an ambitious man who’s passionate about life– work on becoming more ambitious yourself and find new things to be passionate about. When you become better, you will begin attracting better.
In order to set higher standards for the men in your life, start setting them for yourself. Figure out ways that you can improve in all areas of your life and the begin investing in those improvements. Focus on bettering yourself and you’ll soon notice better options coming your way. Remember that you get what you expect so you owe it to yourself to expect MORE from the men in your life.
Be encouraged to set standards for MEN instead of settling for boys!
Koereyelle Dubose is the Founder of TheSingleWivesClub.com