Randy Ritchwood: Steps For A Happier Relationship

July 1, 2015  |  

We all have to make sacrifices, especially when it comes to love –  and that’s the hard part. Honestly, that is the reason many people don’t get into relationships because of those very same things – sacrifices. Ask yourself before going further into this post – if you really want a happy relationship. Usually in the beginning of a union, we walk in head first thinking that everything is going to be cookies and cream – so good to the very last drop. But once we get involved, we often forget that the person we are dealing with comes with a past, and its not always an easy one to navigate. After having my share of relationships, both good and bad, I’ve learned that becoming one takes time. You really have to pay attention to your partner, either through conversations or by the way they move to see if you can really make them happy.

Here’s why? Some of the things that your partner likes or dislikes, may not gel well with you. If you both aren’t on the same page – no one will be happy. For instance, your mate may be more needy for time, but you can’t provide that. If you don’t meet their needs – the arguments start – which leads to unhappy times. You may be with someone who loves to go outdoors and your partner may not. Surely, that will cause problems if you like to venture out. Not knowing those things or paying attention to them will create conflicts , especially if one is not willing to comprise.

The way to resolve that I say is through open communication. At least one partner has to be the willing to comprise with the other half. Rightfully, both parties should be striving to make their relationship a happy one. You cannot be a ‘tit for tat couple. That’s basically when two lovers are at war with each other and neither are willing to back down. To win in your relationship and to be truly happy, I advise that you follow these few steps:

1) Be Understanding

Both involved parties have to be willing to listen and respect each others wants and needs.

2) Compromise

I advise if your partner likes to engage in certain activities, even if you don’t – try it sometimes. You may end up liking it.

3) Have a personality. 

Always try to put smiles and not frowns on your partner’s face. If your partner is always sad or depressed, try to take them out of that zone,  because its not healthy for your relationship. It can and will draw your partner away from you.

4) Be Willing To Fight, Verbally

Every relationship goes through its ups and downs, however for the one that you love and care deeply for – you have to fight to make things right.

5) Show Joy and a Heart

Continue to romance your partner. Once in a blue moon shower her with flowers or a just because gift. Please note that men love surprises as well.

6) Respect.

Both partners should keep their mouth close when they are wrong.

Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood is an East Orange, New Jersey resident and a divorced father of 4. He is also a serial businessman, restaurant owner, real estate owner, and the former reality star of ‘I Love New York.”Wood’ as he is often addressed, is also the 2005 winner of Oxygen’s show ‘Mr. Romance.’ To spice up Mommynoire from a man’s perspective, he will be contributing a weekly column targeting sex, intimacy, dating, marriage, baby mamas, and divorce challenges. In his eyes: “Remember, I’m not your doctor, I’m not your therapist, I’m just your man ‘Wood’ Randy Ritchwood. 

 

 

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