Common Myths About Having a Second Child
I will (hopefully) go into labor with my second child any day now, and started thinking about how the dynamics of my home are going to change. My husband and I were blessed with our first son early last year who has made things very interesting to say the least. As we continue to navigate the land of “toddlerhood,” I can’t help but wonder about all the things I’ve heard when it comes to having a second child.
Some of the stuff is pretty scary.
Thankfully I know quite a few mommies with multiple children who helped ease some of my fears. No matter what everyone else goes through, your journey is your journey. All children are different and don’t always have the same behavior. Should you be expecting your second child, here are some common myths we can debunk.
Having a second child is faster than the first. Okay so the jury is still out on this one as I haven’t yet delivered. As much as I hear the second delivery is faster, this baby is taking his sweet time to exit stage right. My first was nine days late (most likely due to my active lifestyle and workout regimen), and this one is coming up on a week overdue.
Your firstborn will hate his/her new sibling. Sure there might be behavioral issues, but everything is an adjustment period. Plenty of mommies have told me their children love playing with each other.
It might be hard to love your second child as much. One amazing thing us parents possess is the ability to expand our hearts. I find it really difficult to believe I won’t love my new child as much as my first. The journey of being pregnant again has been nothing but a blessing, minus the nausea and stuff.
Your second child will operate in the same manner as the first. Kudos to you if you’re able to get your little one to eat their veggies and sleep through the night. Just because siblings are related doesn’t mean things will come as easy with the second child. Remember, everyone has their own personality.
The second child will fall in line with the first. Again, that personality thing is very powerful. Ideally it would be awesome if your second child followed your firstborn when it comes to listening to rules. Just prepare yourself in the likely event it doesn’t happen.
You’ll give your second baby just as much attention. Obviously you’re going to need to pay a wee more attention to your baby when it comes to feedings and diaper changes. Do realize that many parents have admitted to not going “overboard” when it comes to chronicling their lives. All of those social media posts, scrapbooks and other keepsakes you created with your first child might not happen as much with the second.
What have been some common second child myths you experienced?