I love all of my friends as they wouldn’t be in my circle if I didn’t. That however does not mean I need to take parenting advice from those who don’t have children.
For the most part, I like to think of myself as being pretty open-minded. Yes I have my moral convictions but I can take constructive criticism and suggestions when it comes to life. It’s just funny when a friend or even family member tries to give me tips on being a parent, as if I don’t rise and sleep without my son in my home.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s to stay in your lane.
I recall the days when I was dating or single and thought I knew everything there was about marriage. Come to find out, once married, I didn’t have a clue! Sometimes you have to go through something to thoroughly understand it. Sure you might be able to grasp a concept or two, but ultimately, you should have a little experience on your resume before you consider yourself an expect ya dig?
Facebook seems to be the platform for people to express themselves…sometimes a little too much. I have a few girlfriends who always think they know a little more about parenting and being pregnant and yet, don’t have any kids of their own. With a 15 month old son and baby on the way, I’m still a bit wet behind the ears when it comes to this whole parenting thing. Give me a few years when he goes through the “terrible” phase and the dreaded teenager years for me to fully understand everything. Sure I grew up around children and knew the bare basics, but it’s a completely different story once you have a child of your own. There’s this mommy gene that kicks in and heightens your instincts. You’re in-tune with your child, their wants and needs. In addition, every child is different which makes every parenting journey unique in its own right. Sometimes you can’t blanket a one-size-fits-all approach to parenting as it won’t always apply to your situation.
When you’re a parent, it’s easy to understand this.
At the end of the day, watching someone’s child for a period of time and actually raising one are two different things. Most of us raise our children to respect others so I can only hope they behave in mixed company, or when mommy or daddy isn’t around. That means you tend to see them at their best–not when they refuse to go back to bed in the middle of the night or struggle to keep a good attitude when they don’t feel well.
Every time I get a “Tanvier you should try this” suggestion, I chuckle in my head and simply say thanks. I can’t wait for the day when they have children and become introduced to a whole new world.
How do you deal with people who try to give you parenting advice with no kids?