For starters, I hate the term “falling in love.” I think it’s dumb. You don’t fall in love…you make a choice. Many people have their own ideas of what love truly is based off of experiences and what songs tell us that the concept of what it truly is comes from individual interpretation. However, billions of have done it before and after us so while there may be several ways to love there is only one real way.
I think the idea of “falling” in love is immature. Better yet, I think we use the term to circumvent saying that we are surrendering to it. On an unconscious level, I deduce that this means submission and doing so is something that we as a generation do not like. A phobia of being vulnerable lacks maturity. It’s unhealthy and the results leave everyone more guarded and even less susceptible to someone else who would like to come along and actually chose to love us.
So what is a mature relationship? What does that actually look like? I have read a few different posts about this idea and while I could use all kinds of diction to describe my thoughts the only word that comes to mind is that they’re bullsh*t. Well, not completely; but they come off a little ideal.