Listen mommies, when a man says that he is ready for a family, then he must be ready for the responsibility of running one. As you may already know, not every man is built to take on the role of being the head man in charge, so often the woman of the house has to do it. However, if you are dealing with a mature and experienced man, trust and believe, if he is committed to the job, he will be determined to keep his house in order. In a man’s eyes, he just wants to be respected by his lady and children. He wants them to be able to rely on him during the storms, because really, no man wants to fold or curl up under pressure.
Men are aware that a women respects a man that places his foot down for the right causes and does what is right for the overall team. But what he wants in exchange for his leadership duties, is for the woman of the house to keep things together when he gets weak. That means, she has to be the head until he gains his strength back. Couples, however you are grouped, are supposed to protect one another during trials and tribulations. They are supposed to push one another and fight through any hardship that comes their way.
Usually, the modern man has to bust down 8 hours and more a day, so his family can get the things they need. However, due to the strain of today’s economy, the modern man may have to ask the lady of the house to jump in and support by contributing to the cost of the utilities, food, and clothes for the kids. Some women have a problem with that, but unless you want a man to spend more time out of the house working, then its almost necessary to help. What many women don’t know is that a man expects for his lady to balance the budget and really focus on nurturing the kids, while he is building the foundation.
With the pressure that a man has to carry daily, do you know what makes him feel good and appreciated? The biggest high for a man is being able to stick his chest out after battling the odds like the workforce, finances, the children, and often his significant other. But at the end of the day, he doesn’t mind, because he still has his unit and his special woman by his side. See a real man, or better yet, the real head of a household, places his family first and by most accounts, puts himself last, because he wants nothing but the best opportunity for his future and those who depend on him.
Mommies, you may not realize through the arguments over money and childcare that every man wants a family, but just may not know how to manage and hold on to one. Like you, men get weak at times. During those scary moments, we run if we feel like we have failed you or think that we are failing you. Now in my 40’s, and with a lot of wisdom under my belt, I try to encourage young fathers and men overall to stop running and face the responsibilities they created. Verses just abandoning the family unit, only to create another one, face your fears and man up. Use your knowledge to direct your children on how to be future heads of their families.
A man earns the title of a father, and often husband, but most importantly – Head of the Household, when he is able to demonstrate that he is ready to welcome all responsibilities tied to his home without fear. A man truly represents the title, when those in his world appreciate him for holding it down by any means necessary. For moms without men in the house, I always tell fathers – you may not live under the same roof as a unit, but still move in an honorable fashion so your family can respect you, even if its from a distance.
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Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood is an East Orange, New Jersey resident and a divorced father of 4. He is also a serial businessman, restaurant owner, real estate owner, and the former reality star of ‘I Love New York.”Wood’ as he is often addressed, is also the 2005 winner of Oxygen’s show ‘Mr. Romance.’ To spice up Mommynoire from a man’s perspective, he will be contributing a weekly column targeting sex, intimacy, dating, marriage, baby mamas, and divorce challenges. In his eyes: “Remember, I’m not your doctor, I’m not your therapist, I’m just your man ‘Wood’ Randy Ritchwood.