How To Incorporate Children In Your Wedding

March 18, 2015  |  

I can picture it now. Those sweet little flower girls and that handsome little ring bearer walking down the aisle–but wait, one is crying and the other doesn’t know which way to walk. At the same time there are children in the audience either talking loud or throwing a temper tantrum.

Does this sound like a wedding you’ve been to before?


These experiences are all so common in many weddings that incorporate children. As an event planner, I see this all the time. Incorporating children in your wedding is not always the easiest task, but they are just so darn cute so who can resist. Here are a few easy tips to remember and some great planning ideas to ensure an easy breezy beautiful wedding. At the end of the day, don’t stress out too much: kids will be kids and regardless your special day will be filled with many beautiful memories.

There are two main parts to a wedding. The ceremony and the reception. At the ceremony, it’s typical that children walk down the aisle as flower girls and ring bearers. It’s the most darling thing ever. However, it can be nerve racking for the children. Before the wedding takes place, make sure you have the children practice going down the aisle. Get them familiar with their surroundings and explain to them what exactly is expected of them. If you find that during the practice that they are reluctant to participate, this is usually a sign that they also will be reluctant during the actual ceremony. If this is the case, I would suggest having an adult walk with them. This will help ease some of their nerves. Once you can minimize their nerves then it should be smooth sailing from there.

Now, the reception is whole other animal because children need to be entertained throughout the entire reception. First thing first, if you are having a lot of children at your wedding, it is always a good idea to hire a babysitter. Inform the guests that are parents that this service will be available and they can decide whether to bring their kids or not. Doing this will not only will ease your stress but also it is a nice thing to do for the guests that are parents. They will love you for it and have a good time at your wedding. In addition to a babysitter, here are some more ideas to help you incorporate children at your wedding. The sky’s the limit, so get creative and make your wedding an event that everyone will remember including the children.


  1. If you are having a summer wedding, it’s a cute idea to have a lemonade stand and the kids could pass out lemonade. Of course, make sure it’s supervised by an adult.
  2. Kids often feel out of place at wedding. Setting aside a game or activity table with activities to keep the kids busy is a great way for brides and grooms to involve children in their special day.
  3. Do your children have a special talent? Showcase their talent at the ceremony or reception, whether it be a dance number, comedy act, playing an instrument or singing. It doesn’t matter what talent they perform but what does matter is that they are included. Also this will bring personality to your wedding as we all know some weddings can be a little on the dry side sometimes.
  4. Give each child a disposable camera or even better GoPro cameras that take live video. This is a fun keepsake and it gives the kids something creative to do.
  5. Bring in outside entertainment. If you have the capability at your venue to have a separate area for kids then this idea is for you. The kids can have their fun and enjoy the party just like the adults.

Happy planning!

Renee Jones owns Beautiful Purpose Events and Food So Good Mall.


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