In terms of straightening up and clearing out your physical space, we should be applying that same “SPRING CLEANING” principle to our love lives as we do our homes! It’s time to spring clean your dating routine!
Here are some tips on getting a head start on spring cleaning your love life:
#1 Clean up your Social Media
You should assume anyone interested in dating you will google your name. Therefore, revisit and update all of your social media ASAP! Make sure you don’t have a shrine to your Ex or inappropriate pictures of scantily clad women on Facebook.
#2 Get rid of the Randoms in your life
Don’t waste time with people who are not marriage material. It gets lonely over time; however, spending time with a person who you are too embarrassed to introduce to friends, family and colleagues is a complete waste of time.
# 3 Dust of your list of Must- Haves, Nice to Haves and Deal Breakers
If you’re currently dating someone who’s breaking an important deal-breaker (and is unwilling to change), why are you still dating him? Make a fresh start with someone who’s in line with your most important values.
#4 Refresh your living space
Don’t underestimate the impact of your home environment on your thoughts and mood. Get rid of items that bring you down and add some items that lift you up. Start entertaining so that you can start creating a home instead of a house.
# 5 Boost your self confidence
Head to the gym, get a new haircut, go blonde or grow a beard to get yourself out of an appearance rut. A simple lipstick can boost your confidence. Work on the inside and outside on a parallel path.
# 6 Toss the baggage
Purge any fear, anxiety, or self-criticism — anything that’s holding you back. While you’re at it, lose any emotional baggage, as well. Pack up those suitcases full of guilt and regret so you can move forward, free and clear. Add some positive thoughts, such as, “I’m smart,” “I’m talented,” and “I’m oh-so-fabulous.”
Relationships reflect aspects of ourselves. So by sorting out your thoughts and replacing the bad with the good, you’ll attract better relationships. Predatory people target people with low esteem.
# 7 One day at a time
We all make big New Year’s resolutions and then feel guilty when we do not follow through. Instead, set small achievable goals for yourself and work on them one day at a time