What Would You Do?: Your Crazy Ex Won’t Leave You Alone

January 28, 2015  |  

A lot of us feel when a relationship is over, it’s done for good. But not if your ex is a crazed stalker who won’t leave you alone. Oh yes, they’re out there. And some of you have probably been through it first-hand. I personally know of a woman who’s been dealing with a situation of the sort for the past two years. I’ll refer to her as “Danielle.”

Danielle and I share a mutual friend, and one night, we all went out for dinner. Her phone kept blowing up, and her facial expression reflected pure vexation and annoyance every time it rang. So, of course, we had to be nosey and ask who it was. She dropped the name and our friend, “Stacey,” immediately threw her hands in the air and incredulously shouted, “Still?”

Lost, I asked for the 411 and Danielle ran down how she’d spent nearly four years dealing with a lying, cheating, disrespectful son-of-a-gun until she finally mustered up the strength to leave him. Two years later and he’s still calling and texting her phone, popping up at her house, and checking up on her momma. Although, luckily, she said his case read more like persistence and desperation rather than a deranged psycho killer.

But not all women are as fortunate.

Not too long ago, I came across an old story where a Texan woman by the name of Deanna Cook was murdered by her ex-husband, Delvecchio Patrik. She’d taken out a restraining order against him and she’d even moved a few times. But he’d always find her. Deanna kept calling the police, and Patrik kept getting arrested, but apparently none of the charges ever stuck, and all she was told to do was “get a restraining order.” That is, until one day, while she was on the phone with a police dispatcher, he broke into her house and killed her. And it was all caught on tape.

Unfortunately, in extreme cases like Deanna’s, there is nothing much that police enforcement does but tell you to throw a piece of paper in your stalker’s face. (Basically, you’re on your own.) So what steps do you take to protect yourself? I’d say, after you move, it would probably be a good idea to invest in a few watch dogs and some heavy artillery. Because, God forbid it goes down, it’s better him than you.

It’s sad that we live in a world where these types of situations occur, but they do, so it’s necessary that we discuss them and keep the conversation going.


Ladies, what would you do if you had a crazy ex who wouldn’t leave you alone?



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