Drop It Like It’s Hot?: Mom’s At The AMAs 2014
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I’m conflicted. On one hand, I want the world to stop putting mothers in a box. On the other hand, I want mothers to act like they have some children at home. Isn’t there a happy medium?
These thoughts were battling each other in my mind as I watched the American Music Awards on ABC this past Sunday evening. The great thing about AMAs 2014 (and trust me, it took me quite a while to find anything great) was that the show was clearly dominated by women. Taylor Swift was honored with the Dick Clark award, which was presented to her by musical icon Diana Ross. The estrogen on stage was on overload with Nicki Minaj, Iggy Azalea, and Ariana Grande each performing twice. Jessie J., Skylar Grey, Christina Milian, Jennifer Lopez and Mary J. Blige were a few of the other women who had musical appearances. It was almost as if the AMAs decided they had to pull out as many women as they could to overcompensate for the fact that Beyonce was not going to be there.
But where Beyonce will delightfully twerk at Award shows while wet, she will also balance out the sexy by bringing Blue Ivy on stage with her. At the AMAs, the mothers who took the stage definitely left their kids at home, opting for a sexier, younger type of performance, and also showing off their asses, literally. While I’m proud that these moms can still get up there and look great alongside these younger women whose stomachs have yet to be stretched into beach balls, I think the show could have used some more adult-like representation from the moms. You know it’s bad if Nicki Minaj is the most responsible looking of the night. If I’m already looking at Iggy and Ariana Grande’s thighs, then do I really need to see Fergie’s too?
It’s not that the mom performers at the AMAs (J. Lo, Christina Milian, Fergie) can’t shake it as good as the rest of them, it’s just that they shouldn’t have to. J. Lo’s been doing it for years and has maintained her body even after having children. She looks great (arguably the best dressed on the red carpet) and doesn’t have too much else to prove. So why the “Booty” record and performance?? I keep trying to understand. She should be setting the example for the girls coming up under her, as opposed to bringing herself down to their level. I’m sorry, but that “Booty” slapping and gyrating against Iggy Azalea was unnecessary. There, I said it. I am not saying that she should balance her twins on each arm (or butt cheek) while performing, but it would be nice for a grown up J. Lo to look great as a mother and maybe perform without the ass-factor. She’s already given us enough for generations to come.
And speaking of backside, another mom Fergie may not have had enough buns for the anacondas out there, but she decided to show them off anyway. And then there’s Christina Milian, mother to the-Dream’s little girl. Though some of her butt was covered, she also gave the audience a little peak under her skirt. While performing with rumored beau Lil Wayne, Milian displayed her chemistry with Weezy for the debut of their collaboration “Start A Fire.” All in all, the ladies were far from motherly.
It’s not that these celebrity moms should go on stage wearing overalls and pumping breast milk, it’s just that in this age of hyper-sexuality, you would think that women who want to move the needle in pop culture would assume some responsibility–especially when they are all raising daughters. I refuse to believe that the only option for women in music is the one where your butt is the most valuable asset.