Having a baby is one of the most miraculous things a human being can do. It is a joyful, loving, and sacred experience for many. While it has its many ups, one down can be the strain that this new bundle of joy can put on your relationship. The sleepless nights, constant feeding, diaper changing, playing, and working a 9 to 5 can leave you absolutely exhausted at the end of the day. You may not even have five minutes for your own thoughts let alone trying to satisfy your mate but making your partner a priority again is extremely important. Check out these great tips for expecting moms and new moms on how to make time for your man.
Finding Mommy Time
Yes, your man is a huge priority but if you don’t have your own sanity how can you make adequate time to really be there emotionally and physically for him. Try taking one or two mini mommy breaks a day. If you can sit and be still or read a book for half an hour while your partner watches the kids that’s great. Even a quick run to the store can help clear your mind. If not daily then dedicate one day a week where you do something nice for yourself.
Babysitters Are Your New Best Friend
Once you deliver, you will naturally spend a few weeks or the first few months just getting to know your baby and learning about motherhood but it’s important to have someone you trust that can help watch the baby. It may be a good friend, your mother, aunt or cousin but whoever it is can honestly be a lifesaver. Ask that person or one of them to come over so you can go out with your boo.
Date Night is a Must
Even if you can only do date night once or twice a month, then make that time count. Surprise him and plan a sexy night out of dinner and dancing. You want to remind him of the fun you had when you two were just dating. If not dinner, then a movie or even go-kart racing can be fun. Just make sure that you are carving out that time.
Do Something Nice
Men want to feel needed and important. Start a new tradition by leaving him a sticky note in the morning before he goes to work that says “I love you,” or “Have an amazing day,” or “You are so sexy baby. Can’t wait for date night.”
Communication is Key
A woman’s body can become so different after birth. It can take some women months or even years after they give birth to lose baby weight. Sometimes this can cause insecurity, which can affect intimacy. Sometimes your partner may just feel left out or completely non-existent. Whatever those feelings are, it is essential to talk and never assume what the other person may be feeling. If communication is something you struggle with then write a letter or an email to get your thoughts out as a starting point.