Dating Diary Of A Single Mom: Starting With Tinder

October 21, 2014  |  

When you’re getting back into the dating sphere, it can be intimidating to think about where to meet the right guy. With a one-year old child and being two years out of the dating game, where exactly should I begin? Having a more refined taste in men, and a stringent list of nonnegotiable qualities and characteristics, I’m certain the bar scene isn’t likely the best place to start. Between work, checking goals off my to-do list, raising my daughter, and everyday life, my chances of just happening upon Mr. Forever in the grocery store, gas station or gym are very slim.

I recently downloaded a popular dating app call Tinder.  The interface of the app is fairly simple, you log in and through your location services on your phone, profiles of locals in your area are offered. If you are interested in someone you swipe right, or tap the heart, otherwise you swipe left, or tap the X. What I love about the app is that you can only be messaged by people with whom there is a mutual interest.

My conversations on the app range from general “Hello, what do you like to do for fun?” to “Don’t you want to get head whenever you want?”The latter is most often, and immediately it is clear this app is intended for no-strings-attached arrangements, rather than committed monogamous relationships. During a text conversation, I asked a gentleman how his day was and he proceeded to tell me, “I don’t just tell people how my day was/is”. Obviously I found this extremely comical, and fairly ridiculous. This man expected me to believe that discussing his daily happenings of life was too personal, however, he had no problem sending me an unwarranted “nudie” pic.

Unfortunately–or maybe luckily–I have yet to land a date from Tinder. Between nude photos, offers for unlimited head, and the disappointment of what seemed to be a potential break in my dating life, I’m not sure I’m quite ready for what modern dating has to offer. Though online dating can seem a bit scary, I don’t think I am going to throw in the towel just yet. Have you ever politely declined an advance and got cursed out? As a bit of an introvert, I take solace in the impersonal characteristic of online dating. I like the idea of being able to secretly creep on a hunky profile while I debate whether or not I will make the first move. I also like that I can ignore a message without fear of repercussions.

Online dating is a process of trial and error. Dating online can be overwhelming with myriad number of website options to choose from, but I am a firm believer that there is someone for everyone. Like your soul has its mate, there is an online dating site that is perfect for anyone bold, or shy, enough to create an account. Thanks to my most recent dating experiences, I will be exploring more of the dating sites the World Wide Web has to offer. I have also been forced to wonder if my taste in men has truly changed.  Have you had any crazy experiences with online dating? Have you tried Tinder? Comment below, and let me know!










Trending on MadameNoire

Comment Disclaimer: Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN