Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: People Turn To Friends, Not Mates, To Talk Sex
Let’s talk about sex, baby! Well, maybe not. One of the nation’s leading condom-makers, Durex, says people are more comfortable discussing sex with friends than with their significant other. This according to a survey conducted by the sexual wellbeing brand, which says only 27 percent of people confide in their partner about their sexual needs. This suggests, people turn to friends, not mates, to talk sex!
And potentially as a sign of the times, many respondents—almost half—confessed that they are much more comfortable “sexting” or discussing sex with their mate on their phone. And an overwhelming 70 percent admitted to bringing their phone or tablet devices to bed with them.
So what’s up with this?
“There is a strong fear of rejection or hurting your partner’s feelings,” said Aurore Trepo, Marketing Director at Durex. “Additionally, from a young age, American men and women are taught that sex is not appropriate to discuss.”
One would think we’d be comfortable in being open with someone we share our bed with, but as many can attest to, it’s often easier to candidly discuss your bedroom happenings and fantasies with people you won’t have to answer to later!
And while we can provide candor about what we do and don’t want in the bedroom with our closest confidantes, and maybe want to hide behind the protection of a phone screen versus facing our mate when dishing about our various wants and needs, it would definitely be more beneficial to just put it all out there.
Trepo echoes this point, “However, the couples who [are up to telling their mate their sexual needs] are the first to reap the positive impact on their sex life. Ultimately, sharing more with your partner leads to greater sex, which make both feel connected and more prone to try new things.”
As a follow-up to the results of their latest finds, Durex rolled out a number of programs and web features to guide couples along in opening up about s-e-x, including online tips and videos, an online fantasy finder for couples to encourage “sexploring,” and online “sexperts” to provide professional advice on strengthening your sex life!
Do you talk to your friends more about sex, or do you talk to your partner?