Photo credit: J. Quazi King
mater mea is an online magazine that profiles the lives of working moms of colors through gorgeous photography and compelling features. Here choreographer and professor Christal Brown describes the kind of person she hopes her son becomes.
I hope to share with [Gabriel] that the path for your life is not something you create or something that you neglect. It’s just something that’s laid out for you. And as long as you can listen and be humble, then everything you need will happen.I hope he becomes, first of all, a God-fearing man. I want him to be a man of integrity. I want him to be clear about who he is and not to make exceptions for people to make him comfortable. I want him to be strong in his convictions. I want him to value education, and I want him to be a leader among men. Those are my dreams for him. I think those are probably every mother’s dreams for their children. But I really, sincerely want him to be a man of integrity no matter what he chooses to do to do with his life.
[My] older sibling has been in and out of prison for half of his life.I try not to be overprotective because I’ve seen so many black males in my family not succeed, and I think part of it is because they don’t have the skills. And I think those skills are not taught to them because the mothers or the parents in their lives kind of overshadowed their own power.
What I learned from watching my brother make the same mistakes over and over again was that he did that because my mother and father were always there to pick him up, or he thought there would always be someone to save him. I don’t want my son to grown up in the mindset that he’ll always have a savior. I’m a single parent and I want the best for my son. I can’t always think that I can teach him how to be a man, but I can teach him some core values about responsibility and integrity.