Yes, you are reading the title correctly–our guys need some lovin’ and special attention too after the birth of our children.
Don’t get me wrong, this mama right here was super tired after delivering her child (and naturally at that). All I wanted was a nice bed to try and get some shut eye (between the crotch pains and baby demands, that was a stretch) and a turkey sandwich – the last thing I thought about was sex and trying to please my husband. Pregnancy is not a walk in the park where you can spring up and immediately get back to business – there’s a reason why doctors recommend we stay away from vigorous activities including sex for at least six weeks. And I won’t even touch the “issue of blood” you will have for weeks starting from the time you step off the delivery table.
For the most part, I think any good man would give their lady the time they need to heal. And please don’t get me wrong, we certainly don’t need their permission to be left alone. I can’t speak for all men, but I can tell you that my husband has been a rock star during and after my pregnancy. Maybe I got lucky though I would hope this is the norm as he has helped to take much of the burden off my shoulders in order to give me time to rest and heal. Whether it’s staying up at night once I was able to pump with the baby so I could sleep or being a personal assistant by getting my meals and running errands, he has been a true godsend.
And he never hints or complains about being sexually frustrated, though I know his nuts have got to be brushing against the floor by now!
Obviously we can’t make love until I am fully recovered, but there are some things I have planned until we are able to get back to business:
Schedule Oral Tune Ups
There are times when I schedule “oral tune ups” on our Google Calendar as we both work from home. No, I am not neurotic but you should see the look on his face as he never knows when our mini sessions will pop up. Sometimes I like to take it to a kinky level where I do it during one of his conference calls (scandalous, I know). Though our sessions do not last for a long time, the frequency of them happening is what makes them memorable. There are tons of other things you can do; this is more of a quick fix.
Hit The Pole
Okay, so this one may require a prop or two. I am not ashamed to say we have a pole in our home (it’s movable) as pole fitness is my hobby. Sure, I can’t do many air tricks for the time being, but have felt in the mood to get my Beyonce on with a little twirl or two. This, my friends, leads to a little oral boom boom which is icing on the cake – and honestly speaking, him appreciating my body as-is post baby makes me feel even more empowered.
Another idea I have been playing around with is rounding up some of his fellas for guys’ time. Now, I doubt he will want to create his own Hangover moment by flying to Las Vegas but I do see an opportunity coming for him to finally open up that Johnny Walker Blue Label (he has been waiting for the right occasion). As simple as this may sound at the end of the day, we all need that time with our friends to unwind.
At the end of the day, I still take care of my new baby and business, but I certainly don’t want to neglect my husband. He knows our child is the top priority, but that doesn’t mean I can’t show him some love from time to time. After all, a little post-delivery favor (and flavor!) can go a long way.