“So I’m Moving On”: A Dad on Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union Engagement
On December 21, Dwyane Wade proposed to his girlfriend of four years, Gabrielle Union. Nine days later the news broke that he had recently fathered a son with a woman that wasn’t his longtime significant other.
“I had a time, a part in our break, in our pain and our hurt, a blessing came out of it in my life, having a son that was born healthy,” Wade said during a press conference Monday. The court of public opinion had been asking a myriad of questions about this alleged “break.” If the child was born in November would suggest that the child was conceived in early February; in which there are many pictures on Instagram that suggest otherwise. To this I say “So?”
Gabrielle Union knew what she was getting into. When she and Dwayne Wade started their relationship he had already solidified himself as one of the best players in the NBA. She is well aware of the kind of lifestyle that comes along with this kind of life. Women are everywhere: outside the locker room, in the hotel lobby, some are even bold enough to hide in closets. That’s a hard temptation to keep turning away. I’m not saying it’s right, but it’s reality; one that Gabrielle Union is well aware of after spending over twenty years in show business.
Whether they were actually on a break or not, knowing how possible or even probable that Dwyane Wade could have had something outside of his relationship is something that was potentially thought out. When Union and Wade started seeing each other he was married. Not something I’m too proud of anymore, but I was notorious for dating girls who started off in relationships with other people. In fact, my daughter’s mother was in a two year relationship when I passively convinced her to ditch him for me. As much as I loved my girl I knew her potential to do this again. At a time when we were on a break-okay it was more like we were broken up-I knew that she’d probably be seeing someone else during that time. I wasn’t going to ask any questions and if or when we got back together we just chalked that up to the game and proceeded.
The most important thing that Dwyane Wade said about fathering this child and how it pertains to his relationship was, “So I’m moving on.”
That’s the best thing to do for all parties. Obviously, Gabrielle knew about the child for some time. I’d almost bet that the story didn’t leak until after Wade was strategic with respect to his relationship. The most important thing in all of this is that another life was created. Dwyane Wade has full custody of his sons and seems to take his role as a father seriously. Children don’t ask to be born; they just happen. A lot of time there is a lot of turmoil leading up to their arrival especially when they come out of wedlock. When the child comes that changes everything and everyone is all in love. That’s all that matters.