“If I Had Kids, My Kids Would Hate Me”: Oprah Talks Never Having Children
Oprah is a giving person with a big heart, but the media superstar doesn’t think that’s a good reason to have children of her own. Just in time for her sixtieth birthday next month, Oprah sat down with The Hollywood Reporter to look back on her career and her life. It’s been a full one but it didn’t include children–and she still thinks she made the right choice.
It isn’t that Oprah doesn’t like children. Her school for girls in South Africa has been running for years, sending girls to top universities in the United States. And though her school was a philanthropic mission at first, she’s really become personally invested in the girls she helps educate:
Winfrey acknowledges how stunned she is at how much the students have come to mean to her, especially given that, unlike her best friend, being a mom held little appeal. “Gayle [now a mother of two] was the kind of kid who, in seventh grade Home Ec class, was writing down her name and the names of her children,” she notes. “While she was having those kind of daydreams, I was having daydreams about how I could be Martin Luther King.”
Still, she knows not having children (even after being with Steadman for years) was what she needed:
“If I had kids, my kids would hate me,” Winfrey contends. “They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.”
Oprah can basically do anything, so I kind of feel like if she’d really wanted to be a mother, she would’ve found a way to work it into her whirlwind schedule; tons of powerful women do it everyday. But being a parent definitely isn’t for everyone and if she’s okay with her decision, than good for her. The only regret she has? Ending her talk show.