New mommyhood is thrilling but exhausting. Breastfeeding is painful. Sleep deprivation can drive a new mom to tears. To top it off, everyone–friends and family–wants to come to the “rescue.” Look, we know you want to help but more often than not people offend by saying the most inappropriate things, which is so unhelpful. Your hormones are already running wild; the last thing you need is to be annoyed. Here are 10 things we got plenty sick of hearing during those early days. Tell us what we missed in the comments!