The are so many stories of kids using social media for stupid things, but the students at this Texas high school actually put their Twitter accounts to good use. Richardson High School invited Justin Lookadoo to speak to the student body but parents and students were concerned about his sexist message that his girls should just shut up if they want to get boys to like them.
Lookadoo is the author of faith-based dating manuals for teens with titles like Dateable: Are You? Are They and Chat Room Chatter: The Buzz on Prom Dates, Superheroes, and the Universe at Large. His website rudateable lays out the rules thusly for girls:
Accept your girly-ness. You’re a girl. Be proud of all that means. You are soft, you are gentle, you are a woman. Don’t try to be a guy. Guys like you because you are different from them. So let your girly-ness soar.
Be mysterious. Dateable girls know how to shut up. They don’t monopolize the conversation. They don’t tell everyone everything about themselves. They save some for later. They listen more than they gab.
Need him. Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent. She knows we are made for community. Needing each other is part of faith. She allows him to be needed at times, knowing he was called to serve just as much as she was.
And for boys, the complete opposite:
Being a guy is good. Dateable guys know they aren’t as sensitive as girls and that’s okay. They know they are stronger, more dangerous, and more adventurous and that’s okay. Dateable guys are real men who aren’t afraid to be guys.
Men of God are wild, not domesticated. Dateable guys aren’t tamed. They don’t live by the rules of the opposite sex. They fight battles, conquer lands, and stand up for the oppressed.
Keep it covered up. Dateable guys know that porn is bad for the spirit and the mind. They keep women covered up.
So you can see why his message would be upsetting to parents. One concerned mother told the Dallas Observer, “I am extremely troubled by the fact that Richardson High School would bring in an ‘expert’ speaker who holds the dangerous, misogynistic views that advance a rape culture such as those expressed on his website.” Parents took their concerns to the principal but students started the hilarious hashtag #Lookadouche to express their concerns.
Outcry from parents got the assembly postponed and then made optional but it still happened this Wednesday. Some students walked out of the assembly in protest. Good for these Richardson High students for recognizing when someone’s trying to feed them garbage. The student body is having good conversations about sexism and dating, things they should be confronting. So maybe some good did come from this crazy man coming to campus after all.