Pregnant and Feeling Beautiful
My going home outfit from the hospital with my first daughter was an oversized grey tracksuit. It was large and the pants dragged on the floor and made me feel like an elephant, but I decided on it because I thought, as a mom, that’s what I should look like.
I learned or maybe taught myself during that pregnancy that I need not, as a mother, worry about things like beauty or acne-free skin or well-fitting pants, because it wasn’t about me anymore.
“It’s about your baby!” or that’s what the world seems to scream any time a woman dares think about herself and her desires to feel beautiful (gasp). And I get it. When you have a baby, things change—a lot. To survive, women should plan to adjust to pregnancy, and, later, to motherhood, to stay sane and to embrace their changing identities.
But, I have learned, now, in my third pregnancy, that during pregnancy, women should also be okay with their desires to be and feel beautiful. I’ve learned that it’s okay to want to feel beautiful and that pregnant women should be intentional in making their desires real. Even with weight gain and swelling, here are some of things I’ve been doing and that I think other pregnant moms can do to feel beautiful, too.
1. Pay attention to your wardrobe. That grey tracksuit I wore leaving the hospital with my first daughter? Yeah. Never again. Embrace your growing body and buy clothing that reflects your pre-pregnancy style and makes you feel good!
2. Exercise on a regular basis. Exercise is not just good for your physical health; it’s also great for your mental health! I exercised in my second pregnancy, and I’m doing the same in this pregnancy, because it made me feel more in control and in tune with some of the changes that were, inevitably, happening to your body.
3. Treat yourself to pretty little things. Your “pretty little” things are the things you do during pregnancy just to feel, well, pretty. I like to paint my nails and wear my hair in different styles. These small things make my day more fun and keep me more in tune with the woman I was before pregnancy.
4. Eat healthier foods. You can and should indulge in a cookie here and there. But, for the most part, stick to eating the foods that make you feel good, foods like fruits and vegetables and lots and lots of protein.
5. Spend time with your spouse/significant other. Plan date nights. Get dressed up and wear heels! You are pregnant, but you’re still a woman and deserve to enjoy yourself and your loved one!
Do these things because you’re worth it and because, if nothing else, you deserve to feel beautiful during your pregnancy!
How do you make sure to feel beautiful during your pregnancies and as a mom?