Should You Stash Money When You Are In a Relationship?
I’m a stasher and I’m proud! I hide money, conveniently leave shopping bags in the trunk; you name it – I’ve done it. It’s a habit that I developed when I was married. I realized that when I brought shopping bags into the house I was immediately under fire with interrogation style questioning. I soon learned that when I walked in the house without shopping bags, I was greeted by a beautiful silence that was music to my ears. Aha! I found a way to have the merchandise in my possession minus the nagging; priceless! Even now that I’m not a wife, I continue to practice my stashing in my current relationship.
I learned the word ‘stash’ from my mother. She always taught me to make sure you look out for number one. You will never catch me without a few dollars tucked away for a rainy or even cloudy day. As a womea, it’s just not wise to put all of your eggs in one basket. I don’t know about you, but I don’t trust anyone more than I do myself when it comes to my comfort and stability. Stashing is something I will pass down to my daughter. It’s a means of protecting oneself against human nature. Sure he loves you now, but who knows what tomorrow will bring.
I’ve seen my own marital union turn into a mucky mess of lists and division that left me dumbfounded trying to figure out how it could all come down to him getting the vacuum cleaner and me getting all of the Christmas decorations in the divorce. Fool me once, shame on me, fool me twice, shame on me. I say fool me once shame on me, fool me twice and I’m going shopping with some of your money that I “stashed”. Experience is a good teacher, but you must be willing to learn.
MommyNoire Readers – Do you have a stash of funds that your mate doesn’t know about?
Words by Sid Powell