The Good, Bad, And Ugly Of Having Two Kids Under Two

December 4, 2012  |  

With Jessica Simpson allegedly in the two kids under two boat and a couple of my friends recently receiving positive pregnancy test results while they still have infants in the home, I figured what better time to share what I know as a veteran (ha!) mom of kids less than two years apart. Here’s the good, bad and the ugly of being a parent to two kids still in diapers. Buckle up.

The Good:
While it may come as a shock to you to be pregnant again, the familiarity of it all is comforting. It may feel like you just had a baby and you’re slowly finding your way to “normal” but then you get thrust back to the starting line again. And that’s scary. However, imagine taking the same college class two semesters in a row. You’d be ahead of the game with knowing what to expect and you’d be more comfortable than the people who had never taken that class before.

Bottom Line: It’s not as scary as you think. Remember, you’re a pro!

The Bad:

Babies are expensive. And having two babies in a relatively short period of time is hard on the budget (All the parents of multiples are snickering at us right now.). You can sort through what you currently have, but don’t be surprised if you still find yourself needing a lot of items. If you didn’t cloth diaper, you’ll be starting from scratch with diapers and depending on the age of your oldest, you might need to buy a new crib and car seat. If you were like me and the genders don’t match, don’t fret. I managed to pull a decent sized wardrobe out of my daughter’s all-pink all-the-time wardrobe to pass down to her little brother. It’s also hard because no one really wants to throw you a baby shower if you just had one less than a year ago.

Bottom Line: No eating out for a little while, but you’ll find your financial groove. Sites like can help you figure out the logistics of car seats, strollers and sleeping arrangements.

The Ugly:
My biggest “problem” when I found out I was pregnant shortly after my daughter’s first birthday was that I was just beginning to feel like I had my body to myself again. I was no longer breastfeeding, I was working out regularly and my husband and I had, ahem, resumed our regular rhythm in the bedroom (probably what lead to baby #2). But then I was again with child and it felt like I would never be truly “alone” again.

You will also feel guilty about depriving your oldest of your attention. That’s pretty much a given. You’ll be concerned with whether your oldest understands what’s about to change and whether you’re doing enough to prepare them.

Bottom Line: You may struggle with this last one the most. It’s hard for a lot of moms, but you will learn to have that balance. Plan a day or so for someone to come over and watch your youngest while you get quality time with your firstborn.

The bright side? Having children close together is hardest in the beginning but gets easier over time. By the time they are both out of diapers, the struggle of adjusting to two children so quickly will most likely be a thing of the past.

How many of you are/were parents to two kids under two? What would be your best tip for managing two kids close in age?

Words: Tara Pringle Jefferson
Tara Pringle Jefferson is the founder of and the author of Make It Happen: The Young Mommy Guide To Creating The Career You Crave. Follow her on Twitter or check out her blog for her insights on what it means to be a mom, wife, student, writer, and about three other labels she’s too tired to remember.

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