Striving to be an Example
Since I was a young child, the words “remember who you are,” have followed me. I’ll never forget the look on my pops face each time each he said it. His expression more so read “stay yo’ a$$ outta trouble!”
As annoying as I found his ramblings at that time, I later on in life, realized the full potential of his uber wise uttering.
It’s silly how such few words, can pack such a heavy bang!
As a young mother, striving to be an example for my six year old daughter as well as trying to “find myself”, I feel more pressure than ever, when I marinate on these words.
In a world consumed and obsessed with appearance, money, finding happiness and revelation in material things and sexual adventures, you can only imagine the temptation to dig in and get dirt-ay! And even though, we’ve all heard it before “what looks/sounds too good to be true may just be too good to be true,” we all get caught up sometimes.
Lord knows that my daughter was not just a miracle but was a life changer. The challenge I feel at times to just want to break away or give up, is eliminated by the love and hope I have for her; and the life I believe she deserves to live.
Over the past few years, I have established a few rules to live by, that have helped me as I strive to be a solid example for my itty bit:
1. Never apologize for being yourself.
2. Always guard your heart.
3. Friends come and go, but family is forever.
4. Love other’s as though they hold greater value than yourself. If we put other’s before ourselves, there would never be anyone in dire need.
5. Love never gives up!
6. With practice comes growth and with growth comes success.
7. Surround yourself with those of healthy mind and heart.
8. Remember who you are or the world will decide for you.
While each of these rules came via a hard life lesson, I try to instill them in my child daily.
And if your tot is anything like mine, she watches my EVERY move. But as she glances up at me with her big brown eyes, I am reminded of the impact that even the small things I do have on her.
Our children are the future and if we do not set the bar for them, someone else will.
So as you go about your day, in spite of your daily challenges as a mother, remember who you are. After all, all eyes are on us!
Words By: Ruthie Hawkins