Engagement Rings: Does Size Matter?
“It doesn’t matter what my ring looks like! All I want is a physical symbol of your love that lets me know you have sincere intentions of marrying me.” *Sigh* These were my exact words to my ex-husband in a counseling session before we got engaged. I was lying to myself and didn’t know it until I ended up with a $100 ring and both feet in my mouth.
Fast forward 15 years, I have learned my lesson and what matters to me has also changed. If my current beau were to get down on one knee and propose with a $100 ring I would be far more accepting, because I don’t have the doubt and concerns that I had with my first husband. Granted, every woman wants the diamond of her dreams and I make no bones about telling my guy this. At the same time, I’m open to growing “together”. If he had the salary that could afford a two carat diamond engagement ring then by all means, buy it for me! But he doesn’t and I knew this going in so no sense in acting a fool about it now. If more women were honest about how they got engaged and the fact that they have accepted rings that were below the standard of what they’d always dreamt, it would help other women faced with the same conundrum.
Experience is the best teacher in this case. Fairy tales are for books and the big screen. Being happy with your mate and truly wanting to spend your life with them is what really matters, BUT there’s nothing wrong with wanting a pretty symbol to represent the union. The ring is important but the relationship is what counts the most so take the time to talk to your mate to be clear about what’s feasible to spend so you’ll know whether or not their best is going to be good enough before it’s too late.
Words By: Sid Powell