Mommies in the Club: What’s Appropriate?
This past week I was at a blogger conference in Las Vegas and I don’t think I have to explain how ready I was to get away from my life in suburbia and relax, meet new people and grow my blog.
On the agenda were two nights of clubbing, something I hadn’t done in years. Even as a young mother (when people presume you’re out every weekend), I have a hard time a) finding an outfit that is “club-appropriate” and b) finding the energy to drop it low (and not get stuck down there). The closest I usually get to clubbing is when I throw on a Beyoncé song and get my 5-year-old to dance with me.
For a long time, I was okay with that. I love my life and I love my kids, and spending a Saturday night at home with them doesn’t feel like a punishment or like I’m missing out. It was my routine to be in pajamas by 8 p.m. So when I saw that I had an opportunity to go out and kick it like I didn’t have a care in the world, I hesitated. But then I saw there was going to be a celebrity DJ, so I decided to go.
I’m so glad I did.
It was three hours of dancing, laughing with friends, and remembering all the lyrics to the rap songs I used to love back when I was a teen, forbidden to buy CDs with the “Parental Advisory” stickers. I rapped to Lil’ Kim’s verse in “Crush On You”, got my Brooklyn swagger on with Jay-Z’s “Public Service Announcement” and pulled out my best Salt-N-Pepa moves when “Push It” blasted through the speakers.
I was reminded that it’s okay to let loose every once in a while and work up a sweat on the dance floor. For so long, I told myself that moms don’t do that. We can’t go out and have a few drinks and grind it out to a T.I. song because that’s not “appropriate”.
But as long as you’re sober enough to get home and tend to your kids in the morning, then what’s the harm? I still don’t think I’ll be at the club every weekend, but now I will think twice about automatically grabbing my slippers on a Saturday night.
Ladies: How often do you go out to a club with your friends? Do you think it’s appropriate for moms to go out to the club every weekend?
Words By: Tara Pringle-Jefferson