The sight of the word alone can send chills up the spines of some of the most capable and proficient women in the universe. I’ve been there, bought the t-shirt “Single & Ready 2 Mingle,” and torn it up with my bare hands into tiny little pieces. But dating isn’t the problem my friends, it’s all relative to where you are as an individual when the single hammer comes down.
If I were writing a movie about becoming single the scene would go something like this. The defendant is escorted into the courtroom to be sentenced by the judge for her offense.
“falling in love with the wrong man yet again.”
The judge says:
“Ms. So and So, due to the severity of your crime I hereby sentence you to a year or more of dating as a single woman with only the small possibility of parole and constant repetitive advice from your married friends that just don’t get it.”
Ms. So and So watches the hammer fall in slow motion as her soul crumbles at her shackled feet. Sad isn’t it? And this is truly how it feels at times when you’re stuck in the purgatory of dating. There are several remedies for the strife you’ll face as a dating candidate and these are far healthier than some others. The best remedy by far is putting all of your energy into getting yourself together.
First and foremost, recognizing that the world does not revolve around you and that you are not the first woman and won’t be the last to endure the rigors of dating. Next, coming to terms with the fact that yes, you are alone; no you don’t have a date for next Friday, but guess what? It’s ok.
Lastly, it won’t last forever. Even bad things come to an end, trust me.
Words By: Sid Powell