Should You Take Children To See Their Parent In Prison?
Apollo Nida had a very lonely Father’s Day.
According to TMZ, Phaedra Parks did not bring the estranged couple’s two sons to see their father this past weekend.
Sources told TMZ that Parks is taking advice from psychologists who have said it wouldn’t be good for her four-year-old son Ayden or her one-year-old son Dylan to see their father locked up because they’re so young.
Though the boys couldn’t be there in person, they sent Apollo cards with pictures of what they’d been doing recently.
Phaedra also hasn’t visted Nida, though a source claims that she puts money on his books so he can makes purchases at commissary.
Nida is currently serving an eight-year prison sentence for stolen checks and money laundering.
This story breaks my heart. Of course it is Apollo’s consistently poor decisions that have separated him from his family; still, being kept away from his children just seems like adding insult to injury. While I understand that seeing a parent in jail might be a traumatic experience for a child, the alternative of not seeing your father during your crucial, developmental years, is also unhealthy.
I wonder how long does Phaedra plan to keep the three away from one another.
Though this is certainly not a position any wife and mother would ever want to find herself in, I think there are some advantages to Phaedra and Apollo’s sons being too young to fully comprehend what’s going on in their family. I’m sure traveling to prison can be a dark and depressing experience for someone who fully understands their loved one’s loss of freedom. But a four-year-old and certainly a one-year-old don’t have that same type of awareness. Perhaps they’ll just appreciate the chance to touch and see their father.
While I’m sure leaving is painful and unpleasant, having to tell Ayden over and over again that he can’t see his father and having Dylan know his father only through pictures around the house really isn’t much better.
This is no shade to Phaedra because I really can’t even imagine what this might feel like. Still, I’d like to think in a similar situation I wouldn’t deprive my children any more than they have to be in this unfortunate situation.
What do you think about Phaedra’s decision to keep her boys away from Apollo to prevent psychological damage? Is this the decision you would make if placed in a similar predicament?