What Millennials Really Think About Cohabitation, Marriage And Parenthood
I’m not speaking for everybody, but if you take a look at the number of unmarried couples living together today, first-time parents in their mid-thirties and the popularity of backyard weddings, you might agree with me when I say that Millennials look at love and marriage in a much different way than our parents did. Here is a look at what Millennials (in general) think about moving in together, marriage and children.
They’ll move in for convenience
Millennials don’t mind moving in together, even if neither party has popped the question—or even discussed popping the question. They’ll move in together because the relationship is going pretty great, and rent would be much cheaper that way.
But they do look to the future
Compared to previous generations, Millennials actually move slower when it comes to making permanent decisions. They usually won’t move in with someone they don’t see a future with.
However, moving in doesn’t mean a clock is ticking
That future, however, doesn’t need to jumpstart tomorrow. Most Millennial women don’t count down the days until a proposal the second they unpack boxes in their new place with their boo.
Millennial women want to split the rent
Millennial women, when looking for a home with their partner, consider what the rent would be if they shared it 50/50—in other words, they plan on pulling their weight.
They want to find a new place, together
Many Millennial women would prefer to find a home that is new for both parties, rather than one person moving into the long-time residence of the other. They want to feel like the space doesn’t “belong” to either one of them, but to both of them.
A second bedroom is crucial
Millennials don’t see anything wrong with sleeping in separate bedrooms sometimes. In fact, they think it’s essential to getting along!
When it comes to marriage, age barely matters
For the most part, if a woman in her 20s stresses about being married by a certain age, her friends roll their eyes at her and tell her that’s an old-fashioned way of thinking.
They want a career before marriage
Millennials tend to think that marriage is something they can reward themselves with once their careers are in place. Many millennials wonder, “What’s the point?” when it comes to getting married fresh out of college or before they’ve figured out what they want to do with their lives.
Their spouse has to be their best friend
Millennials would almost always define their ideal spouse as their best friend.
Pricey weddings are wasteful
Millennials are progressive, socially conscious, eco-conscious and just conscious in general. For that reason, many find the traditional $50,000 to be wasteful. (That money could go to a dog rescue, ya know?)
Marriage doesn’t mean a baby
Just like Millennials don’t hear a ticking clock for a proposal when they move in together, they don’t hear a ticking clock for a child when they get married. They get married for themselves, and that’s it; not so they can move onto some new phase.
A baby doesn’t mean marriage
Having an out-of-wedlock birth is no longer considered a big deal.
They’re pretty open to the idea of adoption
Parents who adopt are no longer the “rare” and “progressive” couple down the street. Many parents are open to adopting today, feeling they have a lot to give to a child who could use love and support.
Baby pressuring is SO not okay
It’s not cool for friends and family to pressure Millennials into having a baby quick, fast and in a hurry. In fact, it’s taboo.
They really want a career before a baby
And finally, Millennials want to make sure their child can live very comfortably before they decide to bring him or her into the world. Life is more expensive than ever, especially college tuition.