I’m Going To Be…60 Minutes Late: First Date Follies That Aren’t Okay
The weekend has finally arrived and a highly anticipated moment you’ve been waiting for is vastly approaching: a first date. You’ve planned and prepped for the time when you would come face-to-face with a new guy in an intimate setting, all in an effort to get to know them on a personal level. You believe you’re all set. But whether it’s with someone new or someone familiar, an initial date is both exhilarating and unnerving. No matter how hard we try to display perfection, there are some very common mistakes we’ve all made that we wish we could take back. Here are a few examples.
“Don’t be tardy for the party…” Being very late for a first date takes the excitement out of things and can completely ruin it. And while we all know many unexpected things can happen, it’s still pretty annoying to have to wait forever and a day for someone, especially someone you don’t know very well and care very little about. Talk about a bad first impression. So on your next first date, make every attempt to be on time, and if you realize that you’re going to be more than an hour late, it may be best to reschedule.
When out on the town with someone, have you ever felt like you were the third wheel–to their phone? Ignoring your date to update a status or upload a pic can be upsetting. We all know how important our cellular devices are to us, but paying more attention to it than the person you’re with is disrespectful. If you find yourself doing this stop immediately and focus on your date. Or better yet, turn off your phone or just keep it in your purse when your date begins. After all, you’re there to get better acquainted with them; you already know your phone.
When a person takes time out of their lives to entertain you in any way, it’s a great thing and should be appreciated. Unfortunately, some people don’t think so. They take the kind gesture for granted and complain about everything they possibly can with no regard for their date’s feelings. Being unappreciative on a first date (or any date for that matter) is absurd and selfish. That person could be doing better things than listening to you whine, like saving money! Being a Debbie Downer will instantly ruin a first date; so if this is something you’ve done and you didn’t get a call for a second date, learn from this mistake and do better.
One great thing about going out with someone is the chance to have an intriguing conversation with them. But nothing can spoil a date faster than not having anything to talk about. It may be hard to open the door of communication on a first date, especially if you’re not the talkative type. If this is the case, do some brief research on hot topics you think your date may find interesting and take things from there, because there’s nothing worse than sitting across from someone and not having anything compelling to say to them. They’re better off watching paint dry on a wall.
Now the time has come, and the most important part of the date is here–how it ends. This is the part of the date that can make up for all the mistakes you made along the way and can possibly solidify a second date. Or it can be yet another blunder in a long list of them.
So you have a decision to make: to kiss or not to kiss? Whatever you decide to do, please be sure that your breath is fresh. There’s nothing worse than someone leaning in for a goodnight kiss and their breath reaching your face before their lips do. This mistake has been made many times on dates, and there is no excuse for it. Please bring along some breath mints or gum and stick a piece in your mouth before you make on your date. They saw what you ate for dinner, and I’m almost positive that they don’t want a sample of it from your tongue at the end of the night.
First dates are fun, but they can also be difficult because you want to impress the person you’re with by all means. And while things may not go perfect the first time around, think back on what you did and be sure you correct your mistakes before your next date, whether it’s with the same person or someone new. But, above all, be the person you are and have fun.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For, a speaker and an advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.