Why I’m Struggling With The SlutWalk Movement

May 6, 2015  |  

Okay, I know that I’m going to get a lot of flack from people who are just going to read the title, go straight to the comment section and bash me.  For those who have decided to wait and read the article first, I thank you in advance (even if you do bash me).  So, here it goes *deep breath*:

I’m having a very hard time getting behind this whole SlutWalk movement. But, it’s not for the reasons that you think.  When I first heard about it, I liked that it was created as a way to bring awareness to the dangers of patriarchy and allow women who have been sexualized, marginalized, and sexually assaulted to raise their voices.

But, after Amber Rose said that she was going to have a series of SlutWalks this summer to combat the slut-shaming she gets on social media, I found myself making that Marge Simpson “Urmmmmm” groan.  I honestly didn’t even realize I was doing it until my daughter started telling me to “stop making that noise, Momma!”

I was trying to figure out what was causing me such trepidation with this. I completely agree with the reason for SlutWalks inception, and I love and encourage the empowerment that it aims to create.  But still…

It’s not that I’m for shaming women for how they choose to live their lives and dress.  I’m a very big believer in the idea that a woman’s body is her own and she shouldn’t have to feel imprisoned in what she’s going to wear because she’s afraid that she’s going to be sexually assaulted.

I also don’t agree with the double standard that men can sleep with whoever and however many people they want because it’s just “men being men.”  However, if a woman does it, then she’s a whore, slut, trollop, courtesan, or any other disgusting name that people throw at women.

That’s when I realized what the issue is for me. It’s the title.

Now, I know that it sounds trivial, but I can’t get past it. Why? Because to me it seems to touch on a larger issue other than just sexualizing women. It seems to be another way to marginalize us.

I don’t agree with the idea of taking the word “slut” and trying to adjust the meaning for something that is empowering when it was meant to be so degrading.  As a matter of fact, a lot of people can’t get over the power of that word, as seen by the consequences that a college baseball player had to deal with when he called Mo’ne Davis that word.

I just feel like, as women, not only are we made to feel like we’re the problem in most of what ails society, but we’re tasked with finding a solution, once again.  For years, instead of teaching men not to rape us, we’re told about how to dress so we won’t be enticing to rapists.  We’re fed all types of behaviors of how to be an excellent wife, but people don’t try to train men to be good husbands.  Instead of teaching men not to call women sluts, we’re going to take that insult and turn it into something empowering?  NO! I can’t do it!

The simple fact is that as a living, breathing woman, you should be respected, no matter how you look, no matter how many notches you have on your bedpost, or how you decide to dress.  We shouldn’t have to take a term that is so repulsive and re-appropriate the meaning so we can feel empowered. WE have every right to be empowered because we are living human beings!

So, I’m not against the message.  In fact, any disposable money I have I try to donate to something, ANYTHING, that is empowering women’s rights.  But, I can’t agree with wearing the title of something that is meant to shame me because men don’t have to do that.  So why should we?

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