Meet The Black Men: Anthony Smalls
Occupation: Finance/Account Specialist
Relationship Status: Single
Children: 12-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter
A father is… One who does more than plant the seed. He nurtures as well as provides mentally, emotionally, financially, and educationally. He exudes the definition of fun and quality time, and prepares his child(ren) for a positive and successful future. He is a rare gem amongst coal but manages to standout and shine.
The one thing I know to be true about women: As much as the narrative among our women in our community nowadays is “I don’t need a man” or “I don’t need no man,” they do need us, and we need them. Yes, our women are graduating at a higher rate, and working at a higher rate, however the family begins with a man and a woman coming together. We just have to figure out how to STAY TOGETHER.
Three things every relationship should have are… COMMITMENT, Unconditional Love, and Goals in common.
My job as a boyfriend/husband is to: Be committed, loving, caring, understanding, patient, stable (mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually and financially), financially educated, mature (in all aspects), faithful, and trustworthy. (PS: I will be an excellent husband in the future)
Any woman I’m involved with must: Not consider herself a bad b!tch, a “10,” ratchet, or a feminist… I don’t want to fight for a pedestal that we should be on as a team. We have to both humble ourselves to achieve a common goal. She also has to be able to cook… Brains, beauty, booty, and biscuits is my formula for love.
Sext/Text/Call? Rules of engagement… Don’t sext me unless we are having sex that day. I’m okay with texting but if I never call you then you don’t have my attention. If I call, you have my attention at the moment.
I want my legacy to be… A man who got it done against a system that set him up for failure, and he did it by any means necessary.