After More Than A Year Of No Relationships Or Sex, I Couldn’t Be Happier
For most people, the idea of being either single or celibate are worse things in the world. They automatically assume they will enter a boring, loveless, unentertaining world. However for me, it has been one of the best decisions I could ever make.
Now, let me say this first, I am in no way a sexual connoisseur nor have I been around multiple blocks. However, I’ve had two long term boyfriends during and after college, that I probably should have made short term. These two relationships, left me feeling completely exhausted.
The highs and lows of dating someone, can be pretty draining when you’re not in the right relationship. So, after finally ending the last one, I decided to take a break. At the tender age of 25, yes I said the tender age of 25, I felt like I needed to honestly, to find myself.
Most women my age, are beyond pressed to find a significant other before it gets too late. Not me, I needed a break. I wanted to find myself, figure out what I like, what I dislike, and just have some fun.
So I embarked on my journey. During the past year or so, I saw tremendous change. I spent more time with my family and friends. I discovered I LOVE sleeping alone and the perks of being celibate. My visits to the doctor weren’t filled with “well, I may have missed the pill once” and I knew mother nature would be on time every single month.
It also made dating so much easier. It took a lot of the pressure off dating, and made it fun again. I also felt my spirit lighten when it came to men. I could careless if he was chasing after me for my cookie because I knew it was locked up in a box and buried in the Pacific Ocean.
However, despite the ups, it did have some lows. At some points, I did feel like I was missing out on something. While, all of my girlfriends were sharing their escapades, I would just sit and wonder if I was stopping myself from enjoying my youth.
It also made me feel somewhat lonely at some points. But despite those lows, I got more highs. I focused so much more on my career, marked somethings off my vision board and learned the joys of being alone. (Now, when people are in my personal space for more than 3 days, I start to get antsy)
Being both celibate and single aren’t as bad as I thought it would be. I’ve learned to love my mind, body and spirit so much more.
I’m sure I’m not alone in these thoughts, have you ever been celibate?