I Don’t: Movies That Make You Rethink Getting Married
When you find the right person who makes life worth living and you want to build a future with that person, marriage it the obvious next step. But after watching these movies, you may be having second thoughts about tying the knot.
If there’s one movie that makes you think twice about saying, “I do,” it’s “Gone Girl.” The 2014 film, which stars Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike, chronicles the marital discord between Nick and Amy Dunne. Nick comes home on their fifth wedding anniversary to an empty house because his wife had gone missing. On the outside looking in, Nick was a charming husband and great son but behind closed doors, he was hardly the perfect mate. A victim of the recession, Nick had grown to be lazy, disinterested, violent and unfaithful and he was an obvious suspect in the disappearance of Amy. When she found out about her husband’s infidelity, Amy hatched her own devious plan seeking revenge that had horrible consequences.
Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet first starred together in ”Titanic” and years later they were reunited onscreen. In 2008’s “Revolutionary Road,” they play married couple Frank and April Wheeler. Wanting a change of pace, April convinces Frank to move to Paris but soon he is offered a promotion, April finds out she’s pregnant and they decide to stay. The marriage is tested when Frank admits that he’s been unfaithful but instead of showing any emotion, April admits the love is gone. An argument ensues and when Frank thinks things are finally going to improve, April gives herself a vacuum abortion and dies.
In “Blue Valentine,” viewers watched how Dean and Cindy fell in love before their marriage crashed and burned. Even though she was pregnant with another man’s baby, Dean decided that Cindy was the woman for him and vowed to raise her baby as his own. But five years into the marriage, the idyllic days of their youth were long gone and the two struggled as working-class parents who had two different goals in life. They tried to salvage their marriage in a last-ditch attempt with a weekend getaway that ended in an argument and was the final nail in the coffin in their marriage.
“Why Did I Get Married”
Tyler Perry’s “Why Did I Get Married” followed a group of friends trying to maintain healthy and solid marriages in modern times. The friends, who met back in college, traveled to Colorado for their annual weeklong retreat but when a couple’s infidelity comes to light, the mood shifts and each couple finds themselves examining love, trust, commitment and forgiveness. Perry’s film really explored the emotional impact of what happens after a spouse is unfaithful and how it can rock the very core of the marriage.
“Rich Man’s Wife”
When a person is murdered, sometimes the spouse is the first person the police investigate and in “Rich Man’s Wife,” that was the case. Josie Potenza, played by Halle Berry, was a trophy wife but she grew to resent her husband, who took to drinking excessively because of the stress he faced at work. Josie confessed to another man how unhappy she was in her marriage and, hoping to have Josie all to himself, he killed her husband. But there was another man in the picture who got tangled in the web and when it was all said and done, Josie rode off into the sunset with all of her husband’s money and a new lover.
Sometimes you really don’t know the person you vowed to love, cherish and honor. In the 1987 cult classic film “The Stepfather,” which was based on a true story, Susan Maine’s worst fears came true. Unbeknownst to her, she had married a mass murderer who started going by the name Jerry Blake. Her daughter Stephanie always had doubts about her new stepfather and when she began to dig in his past, he skips town and begins to court another woman to marry, but not before he kills someone that figured out the truth. Even though he had moved on, Blake wanted revenge. He planned to kill Susan and her daughter Stephanie and came back to town one last time.
“War of the Roses”
Marriage can be hard but sometimes making it through a divorce unscathed is even harder. In “War of the Roses,” we saw just how ugly things can get when it’s time to split possessions. Oliver and Barbara Smith met when he was still in a student in law school. They got married, had a family and Oliver eventually worked his way up to a partner at his firm. Over the years, Barbara grew to resent her husband and when she asked for a divorce, things got very ugly. Their marital home, which was an over the top mansion, literally became the battlefield when Oliver and Barbara declared war against each other.
“Who’s Afraid Of Virginia Woolf?”
After watching “Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf,” who wouldn’t be afraid to get married? The 1967 film starred Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton and their off-screen tumultuous relationship was fodder for gossip magazines. As Martha and George, they were a miserable married couple who played emotional games with each other for fun. One night they invite a young couple over to their place for a nightcap and proceed to hurl drunken barbs at each other in front of company. Martha mercilessly taunts George and criticizes his manhood. Taylor’s portrayal of Martha was so vividly real, she won her second Academy Award for Best Actress.
“Far From Heaven”
“Far From Heaven” is a portrayal of an empty marriage that was built on lies and deceit. From the outside looking in, Frank and Cathy Whitaker have the perfect marriage but behind closed doors, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Cathy shows up at her husband’s job unannounced to see him caught up in a passionate kiss with another man. Frank decides to undergo conversion therapy in order to save the marriage but instead turns to alcohol. They take a trip to work on the marriage but Frank ends up spending time with another man and it’s clear that the writing is on the wall.
“Take This Waltz”
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. In “Take This Waltz,” Margot learned that the hard way. After being in love with her husband Lou for five years, she slowly falls out of love with him while eyeing her neighbor across the hall. The couple, played by Michelle Williams and Seth Rogen, dance a slow and painful waltz to divorce court leaving Margot free to follow her heart, which leads her to their neighbor. But as luck would have it, Margot isn’t happy with her new life and she begins to regret leaving her husband.
“Husbands and Wives”
Woody Allen is known for his quirky films but one of the bleakest movies the famed filmmaker ever made was “Husbands and Wives.” The film delved into the collapsing marriage between two different couples. Allen and his longtime partner Mia Farrow played Gabe and Judy, who were shocked because their friends Jack and Sally were suddenly separating. Gabe and Judy started to examine their own relationship and soon they were calling it quits, too. What made the film that much more depressing was the fact that the film premiered around the same time Allen’s affair with Farrow’s daughter Soon-Yi came to light. Coincidentally, Allen’s character in the film started to develop feelings for a young, naive student.
“Kramer Vs. Kramer”
Few films have ever captured the raw emotions left when a marriage disintegrates quite like “Kramer Vs. Kramer.” Workaholic advertising executive Ted Kramer comes home one day to find out that his emotionally unstable wife Joanna is leaving him and their young son to find herself. She returns a year later seeking custody of their son. What ensues next is a bitter fight to the death battle in court where both sides are verbally pummeled and broken down on the stand. This movie shines an ugly light on the depths that two people will go to in order to inflict pain on the person they once vowed to love forever.