Bride Who Married Herself Responds To Critics: “I’m Not Bitter, I’m Not Crazy”

January 28, 2015  |  

Earlier this week, we told you about Yasmin Eleby, the Houston woman who married herself during a wedding ceremony to celebrate her 40th birthday. After learning of the celebration, many slammed the bride, writing her off as “crazy” and “desperate.” In response to the criticism, Eleby sat down with The Root and discussed her true intentions for the ceremony.

“It has been blown way out of proportion,” she explained. “From the few comments that I’ve read, they’re trying to paint me as crazy or bitter about not having a husband, and that is so not the case. I’m not bitter, I‘m not crazy. I’m just a fun-loving unique individual, and I just wanted to do something special and different.”

As for the claims that her ceremony was an extreme act of desperation, Eleby had this to say:

“The ceremony is not about me being bitter for not having a man. It wasn’t like, ‘OK, I’m upset that I’m 40 and don’t have a man.’ I wanted to show myself my self-love, my self-worth and my self-respect. It was always about me loving me. When God sends me my husband, he will come, but until then, I’m OK with it just being with me.”

She also broke down the vows she made to herself and what inspired her to make them.

“The first one was about forgiving myself. We’ve all made mistakes. I had to realize that if I ask for forgiveness, then it’s done. I don’t have to keep dwelling on the past. I can let it go. My second vow was to honor myself as a beautiful, fabulous being, conscious of making decisions for myself and to honor my self-worth. The third vow was love. I made a promise to love myself and to know that the more love I have for myself, the more love I have to share with others.”

According to the Eleby, many of her guests believed that they were attending a birthday party and did not realize that there would be a wedding ceremony until they arrived.

“Not very many people knew it was a wedding. It was kind of a surprise. The invitations just said come celebrate my birthday in a unique way. I invited two of my exes. They were both happy for me. They were excited about it once they got there and realized what was happening.”

After reading more of her story, does this change your opinion about the ceremony at all?

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