Should Marriage Be The End Goal Of Every Relationship?

December 12, 2014  |  


From Single Black Male 

You may or may not have seen the above meme go viral.

It’s really nothing new. Every time I see it my mind becomes conflicted. I’m conflicted because on paper, dating with the purpose of marriage is ideal. It’s exactly what many of us would like to do. At the same time, this meme isn’t realistic. I’ll spend the next couple hundred words telling you why.

We’re all cognizant of  societal standards.

Whether they happen to be fair or not doesn’t really matter. They exist, and because of this we run into problems. Saying that marriage is the only goal you should have for dating someone could literally be ignorant. It’s ignorant of a few things. For instance, some people believe it or not do not want to get married. The reasons for which they feel this way are irrelevant. But if these folks don’t want to be married does that mean they have to be void of romance for the rest of their lives? I don’t think so.

It would also be remiss of me to not point out how some ladies view dating and sex and how that relates to relationships.  There are many women who don’t feel comfortable having sex with someone without being in a relationship. For some ladies it’s a matter of wanting stability. Other ladies don’t like the stigma of being a fuck buddy. They’re more comfortable having a label with whomever they’re seeing. For the record, ain’t nothing wrong with being a fuck buddy, but the man you’re dealing with needs to still be respectable.

Read more about dating intentions at 

Trending on MadameNoire

View Comments
Comment Disclaimer: Comments that contain profane or derogatory language, video links or exceed 200 words will require approval by a moderator before appearing in the comment section. XOXO-MN
blog comments powered by Disqus