How Raising My Son To Be A Man As A Single Mom Has Made Me A Better Woman

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Parenthood is one of the most challenging yet rewarding experiences known to all beings, and it is a privilege that shouldn’t be taken lightly. While the task of parenting is endless, tireless work, it is also a journey of innumerable lessons in life; not only for children, but for the parents as well. As I look back on the different experiences I’ve had while raising my son, I realized that as I’m teaching him about various things in life, he’s teaching me as well. While there are a number of lessons that my baby boy has taught me, the ones that stick out the most in my mind and throughout my daily life are ones imprinted in my heart. They made me adjust my life and have molded me into a better adult.

The first thing I’ve learned to do is make better long-term decisions. Before I had my son, I would make decisions that would only affect me without considering the long-term effects they would have. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been the type of person who made very reckless decisions, but now that I am directly responsible for someone else’s well being, I prayerfully and carefully make decisions for the both of us that will produce the best results possible.

My son has also taught me to have more patience, which is important when you have a child and when you’re facing the struggles of daily life. I learned the value of pacing myself, and by being more patient, I have a new sense of inner peace, and it shows outward.

Another valuable lesson I’ve learned is how to give unconditional love and what it truly is. Throughout my life, especially growing up, I always knew I was loved. My parents constantly showed me they loved me through their actions and words. Many things they said and did I never understood, but now I know why: because they knew what unconditional love was and showed it to me so that I could pass it along. And now that I have my son, not only have I experienced love for what it really is, but I have the chance to give it.

And who knew that motherhood would bring a change in style? Before I became a mom, I didn’t always go out in conservative yet chic attire. No, I would go out dressed extremely sexy, looking to snatch a man. While there’s nothing wrong with clothing yourself in a certain type of sexy, I realize that as a mother, I’m the first woman in my son’s life, and I set the tone for the type of woman he will settle down with. Now, I know he will date around and become involved with a variety of women (not too many hopefully), but nonetheless, what he sees in me will have a profound effect on the type of woman he introduces me to.

As I continue on this journey of motherhood, I appreciate life more. I also greatly appreciate how my son has allowed me to become a better person for him, those close to us, and myself. I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learned thus far and I look forward to many more.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.

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