Fighting is Different
Now when we fight, because all married couples fight, we tend to fight a little differently. Now, we know we have to be more careful, not hit below the belt and be more diplomatic. Why? Because we know we’re probably going to make up because, as stated earlier, we have no place to go. So there is no need to say anything hurtful that we can’t take back if neither one of us is going anywhere. Now, there are couples who fight and don’t make up or get over it and have underlying issues which might signal that they shouldn’t be married in the first place. But for us, it’s about recognizing if it’s a “real” fight or one of us just frustrated from a long day at work or sleep deprived from being up all night with the baby. Now, our fights don’t last or linger like they did when we were dating, because we know we have to get on with the business of taking care of our child, our house and continue to run our lives. So we figure out what we’re really angry about, fix it and move on. Marriage doesn’t seem built for long bouts of arguing or not speaking. When you’re dating, maybe you can go days or weeks without speaking or making up. When you’re married, not so much. And if you do, get counseling…fast!