//platform.instagram.com/en_US/embeds.jsNiecy Nash definitely isn’t shy about what she believes keeps a married man happy. According to Niecy’s philosophy, which we were first introduced to via her book, It’s Hard To Fight Naked, frequent blow jobs and home-cooked meals help set the tone for a happy marriage. She further explained her theory and answered other sex and relationship questions during a recent interview with Playboy.
On her one blow job per day theory:
“What I say in the book is, ‘A BJ a day keeps the divorce attorney away’ and I say that because I feel like men are profoundly simplistic, which is the reason I wanted to call my book what I used as the title of chapter three, which is, ‘Stomach Full, Penis Empty: A Woman’s Guide to a Happy Marriage.’ Keeping him fed and drained, you have no problem. We are really more complicated than they are and I think that women are more generous with oral sex because we nurture by nature. We want to be pleasing by nature, that’s in our DNA, so I think that a lot of the behavior we’re looking for sexually, you might have to educate your partner. Sometimes, men just assume they’re going to get it and you need to be like, ‘Give me mine. Ladies first.'”
On many women being unable to communicate their sexual needs:
“What’s so interesting is that [women are] more willing to have conversations about ‘Do you want to get married? Where do you see this relationship going? Do you want to have children?’ than we are to ask, ‘What kind of sex do you like? What are you into there?’ You know what I mean? And that’s a conversation that a lot of people dive into but if you’re going to be with someone for the rest of your life and they’re failing to meet your sexual needs is like doing a slow dance with death. We need to make sure we can meet right there in the middle. The best thing that could have ever happened to me, and I was so fearful when I did it, was I got my tubes tied and had a hysterectomy. It gives me and my husband a different liberty — we can do what we do anytime, anywhere, at a moment’s notice. So that’s a sidebar into my situation, but I can get the party started.”
On how men should approach women they want to date vs women they want to hook up with:
“I feel like, in a perfect world, honesty would be the new monogamy so when you are meeting someone you kind of just put out there what you’re looking for. There is always somebody who wants to do it the way you want to do it, ‘I don’t want to settle down, I’m just looking to have fun.’ Oh okay, show that to five girls at least one of them is going to be like, ‘Okay, let me give you my number.’ As opposed to acting like you want something else just for them to entertain you and then you’re truth being revealed later.”
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Check out Niecy’s full interview here.
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